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Savvy October 2021

Wedding Photos

Lala, on January 6, 2022 at 9:02 AM Posted in Community Conversations 2 9
Hi!


I think I need to write this out just to feel better but would love to know if any of you have felt this way.
We had a beautiful wedding day and felt perfect. It was a stress free day and ran smoothly. We were and still are very happy with how the wedding went!
We got our photos back and although they are beautiful I am not in love. My dear friend was my photographer and having him be my photographer was a very important aspect for me. I wanted to have my wedding be intimate and he has known me for many years! Before anyone comments on "friendors" he is a professional photographer, he has done weddings many times, he is very experienced with many years- so it's not his experience level. The photos are beautiful but maybe I am being picky. I see all these photos on Instagram and the wedding photos look beyond gorgeous! I think possibly Instagram and wedding blogs have ruined the reality of weddings. But I need to remind myself many times those photos are styled shoots and not reality.
I didn't have bridesmaids so I missed out on those types of shots but I do have fun shots with friends.
Maybe it is also that I am being sensitive because someone (not in the family yet) complained they were not in enough photos. I chose to keep family photos to those in the family- engaged or married- not dating. She had a melt down at the wedding which I found out about afterwards and maybe I haven't moved past that. She is in several photos just not the family shots. She was included in several ways outside of photos including hair and makeup and riding with me (all of which I gave her a choice on)
Overall, this is just me essentially journaling my feelings so if anyone can relate please let me know!

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Latest activity by Lala, on January 13, 2022 at 10:59 PM
  • Cece
    Rockstar October 2023
    Cece ·
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    I think you hit the nail on the head with Instagram ruining the reality of weddings! It seems like the majority of wedding photos you see are all styled shoots, where all the brides are beautiful thin models with perfect hair and skin, and are being posed perfectly for shots; not actual weddings with average people in motion during their wedding. Instagram and styled shoots are creating unattainable expectations for real weddings. This is why people are now getting up at the crack of dawn to start hair and make up, and why photographers are pushing for first looks and longer photo times - to try to live up to brides’ insta-fueled expectations of their wedding photography. I would ask myself this question… if Instagram didn’t exist and you had never poured through pictures of styled wedding shoots, would you be super happy with your photos? I had to ask myself that question with our engagement photos. Because, although they were beautiful, I still found myself a little disappointed when we first got them back. And then I realized it’s because somewhere in my mind I had this unrealistic expectation that I was suddenly going to look like the models in the engagement photos all over social media. Once I stopped comparing my photos to those, I suddenly realized how amazing they were and how happy I was with most of them!
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  • L
    Savvy October 2021
    Lala ·
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    You are so right CeCe! Thank you!!


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  • Candace
    Super March 2022
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    I'll add that you really just see one or two photos of a wedding because they pick the best one and you're not comparing the photos against each other. Does your friend have an Instagram page? Ask him to use one of your photos to post and you'll feel better. It will be amazing because he will edit it for optimum aesthetic.
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  • M
    Legend June 2019
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    I also think it's ok to say you aren't in love with them. because i'm sure they are nice and you seem to know they are, but that it just doesn't really do it for you completely. you can always do another photoshoot for a 1 year anniversary or something, ya know?

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  • Sharon
    Super September 2021
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    Oh yeah, Instagram and Pinterest. sovial media in general, have totally ruined people's expectations of everything, especially weddings. Please don't judge based on those. And I'm sorry but it's extremely rude of anyone to say they're not in enough of YOUR wedding pictures. Don't give that a second thought! How do you feel when you look at the pictures? Do they make you happy? At the end of the day that's all that matters.
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  • H
    Dedicated January 2022
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    Such a well-ground and solid perspective, love this.
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  • L
    Savvy October 2021
    Lala ·
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    Such a great point! Thank you!!
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  • L
    Savvy October 2021
    Lala ·
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    Melle, thanks for the idea!! Maybe we'll do a fun photo session for an anniversary. Thank you!
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  • L
    Savvy October 2021
    Lala ·
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    Wow! I never thought of them as “my” wedding photos and my opinion is what matters most. But you're right! Thank you!!
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