Wedding photos with divorced parents

Your dad's gf is ridiculous. You deserve to have a photo or as many as you want with your biological parents.

My parents have been divorced since I was about a year old. They're on good terms now and can tolerate being in the same room together. I plan on having photos with both sets of parents and one or two with Just my parents. Obviously, I will be in the middle, but it will happen and both of my step parents will stand to the side quietly because that's what mature adults do.

You should get your photo with your mom and dad. Please talk with your dad about this and let him know how important that is to you. His girlfriend should not be dictating something like that...

When I graduated HS my parents had only been divorced for a couple of years and my mom was with her now-husband. Getting THAT photo of the 3 of us, and then with my brother, was a must. I would've freaked had someone told me no.

I almost broke down, but those are important photos for you to have for years to come

Agreed with the previous posters. FH's parents are divorced and not at all on good terms. We will mostly have photos of them separately (with us and FH's siblings in both) but FH told me the other day that he really wants a photo with both of his parents in it. We are hoping to sit his parents down, tell them this is important, and hopefully they will agreed. If your parents didn't want to be in the photos together that's one thing, but your dad's girlfriend should not have a say.

Yeah, this isn't something for you to stress over. This should be your Dad's responsibility to handle and tell his GF that she's being immature and ridiculous. My parents are divorced as well and they are most certainly going to be together in my photos. In fact, I specifically have said already that it will be only them when we take the parent photos. I don't want my step dad in any of them...everyone seems to be ok with it.

Semi devil's advocate here- how do you know this is what the girlfriend said? Did your father tell you this? If so, your father should have put her in her place already, and maybe it's something he feels, but is blaming the girlfriend?

Does your dad lack balls? It's not up to her who is in your photos, it's up to you.

Thanks everyone. I am obviously in complete agreement. I told him when he brought it up that it is completely ridiculous and it will take 5 minutes to take a few photos with him and my mom, and that should not cause any kind of conflict. I know I have to stick up for what I want on my wedding day, but I am dreading having to hear from the GF and my dad about how I was "unreasonable" for the rest of my life.

@e=mc2 , this is definitely straight from her mouth, after 20 years this kind of this is the norm for her. she needs to be in control of everything at all times. I still have to hear about how she was not invited to my Sweet 16, 17 years ago.

@Sue, unfortunately you are exactly right, NO BALLS at all lol

Sounds like there are some underlying issues of the GF about being the GF and not the wife after 20 years..

But yes, my parents are divorced too and I'm definitely getting a picture with both of them. I got a picture with both of them at my PhD defense and I'm happy about that.

The gf is insane. He's YOUR dad, its YOUR wedding, YOU can have WHOEVER you want in any/all pictures you want. Ignore her.