Wedding Party's Significant Others

In my experience they just do their own thing until ceremony time.

They just do their own thing

ETA: I should say they just did their own thing for our wedding

Generally the wedding party gets dropped off by their SO's who then go home or back to their hotel until it is time to go to the ceremony.

They usually go their own way until the wedding starts and reconnect after the ceremony and pictures are complete, unless you specifically want to include them in any of these things. It's up to you how much you involve them!

ETA: not everyone here is a lady, I'd reword that, if I were you.

Agreed with PPs that they entertain themselves. It might be helpful to introduce the SOs to each other ahead of time so they have someone they know, but it's not necessary. The rehearsal dinner is a great place to do this because everyone is generally mingling anyway.

Thanks for all the responses. They will definitely be sitting together at the wedding, just didn't want them to feel too excluded beforehand but also didn't know how to include them if that makes any sense. Seems be this is the consensus though so I'm probably just overthinking... again

In my experience they do their own thing. The last weddings I was in, none of us really knew each other, the bride had a wide variety of friends. some of our so's made plans to meet up at a "beer garden" while the wedding party was getting ready.

They do their own thing and then attend the ceremony and reception. I've been to a wedding with FH where I didn't know anyone and he was in the wedding. I hung out at the hotel and got ready, went to the ceremony, went back to the hotel for a little bit and then drove to the reception and met up with him there.

If you're doing a reversal and dinner the day before, they can meet a few of the other SO's and maybe they will all decide to get lunch or meet up while.you guys are getting ready. If not, they will be fine.

Do their own thing.

Agree with everyone above. I would say this though, if any of those SOs are SO of a sibiling of the b/g (or g/g, b/b) maybe try to include if it makes sense.

Here's what happened to me. My now BIL/SIL got married a few summers ago, shortly after DH and I started dating. DH has a small family (one aunt/uncle and three cousins they speak to). At the time I had never met any of them. The day of the wedding my DH was with his bro, along with his dad, and his mom and sister were with the bride. I knew no one and it sucked, because it was also an out of town wedding for us. While I never expected to be included on the makeup/hair, it would have been nice to have the bride say hey why don't you come over and get ready with us. I survived, but was a little butt hurt (the whole do they not like me crap), I'm over it now. Fast forward to my wedding, I made sure she knew she was welcome in my suite at anytime, we had food and that if hair and makeup people had time she could get it done, just on her own dime (it was a similar scenario with out of town). Just some food for thought.

ETA we were together over a year, but had never met his extended family as they lived out of state.

My BMs' husbands, fiancé, and boyfriend did their own thing the day of our wedding, up until ceremony time. The boyfriend didn't actually come to town until shortly before the wedding, so he just found his way to their hotel room and relaxed/got ready until ceremony time. The two husbands actually knew each other as well as knew other OOT guests staying at the hotel, so they had plenty to do, and the fiancé met the other BMs' husbands the night before at the RD. The fiancé also knew my family. I don't actually know what all they did, but I know the husbands and the fiancé spent some time together throughout the weekend.

Short story: they did their own thing the day if the wedding. My BMs made sure to introduce their SOs to each other at the RD if they were present, and they were quite chummy after that.

@JGCT: The feeling hurt thing is my biggest concern. FH's sister is in the WP, her partner is not. I like all of their SO's just fine, we're just not that close that they would be a part of the WP. I also didn't want to invite just some to get ready with me but not all. Don't want to invite all because that is too many damn people in a cottage. Sigh, hopefully nobody gets too butt hurt.

OP I hear ya. I think I would invite the FH sisters partner. On the notion of family. THe other SO you said yourself you aren't super close. I think if rolls were reversed (with GMs SOS) you wouldn't be included either. I just think with family your better off trying to be as inclusive as possible, as these people hopefully will be in your life forever. I'm sure his mom and sister would appreciate it. Maybe give her partner a time when everyone's coming over and just say that her partner is welcome to hang out for as much or as little of the day.

If her partner comes cool, if not nbd, but at least the olive branch was extended!

Generally, they do their own thing.

If you can introduce the ones that don't know anyone ahead of time, that would be cool. There's no guarantee they'd hit it off an want to hang, but would at least be nice for them to have an ally.

From my old high school group, three of us are still close. My bff was in the other's wedding (out of state for all of us) so she kind of pawned her SO on me while they were getting ready. It was either our first or second time meeting so I hardly knew him, but I had also traveled alone so it worked out great for me as we spent the doing some touristy things, and then I had a friend DURING the wedding while the girls were busy doing bride/maid stuff ....so I am a firm believer in the buddy system!

They come to the wedding at the same time as other guests

They do their own thing (unless you are close with them and want you with them when you get ready). They are adults and can come to the venue later or hang out in the hotel on your own. You don't need to entertain them.

We are close with all of our WP SOs so we plan on inviting them to hang out with us. We will all be in the same hotel getting ready most of them are in the WP but there are two SOs that aren't so we will give them the option of hanging out with all of us that day or doing their own thing.

Our BP's SOs arrived for the ceremony. They weren't there early.

Usually they just do their own things. I think its nice when brides are total b*tches and at least offer to let them join in on the day. cue the brizillas.