Hi everyone, I could really use some help.
I have an older sister and we are not close. We've never been close and we argue about a lot of things. Until my niece was born last winter, my sister and I hadn't spoken to each other more than some vague chit chat at family holiday parties. It's not great, I know it's not great, every family has their issues.
This being said, I was not planning on inviting her to be a part of our wedding party. I want to be surrounded by friends who I am much closer with and try to keep the drama level as low as possible. Also, I want the focus to be on marrying my best friend, not mending a seriously damaged familial relationship. I haven't actually let her know my decision yet, because I can't find a way to tell her without it sounding really mean.
I need help from you wonderful folks to find a way to let her know I don't want her in the wedding party. How do I let her know? Ironically enough, this is the type of drama I really wanted to avoid and my poor fiance doesn't have siblings, so he's at a complete loss.
Any advice or even wording you all have to offer would be greatly appreciated. Thanks in advance.
