Wedding party

It was pretty easy for me— chose my younger sister, husband’s sister, brother’s fiancée (we’ve known each other for over 10 years and are close), and two of my best friends.


Husband chose all his childhood best friends and a couple of fraternity brothers.

I chose the closest people in my life--the people that I couldn't see myself having a huge (public) life moment without I think this should be the case for everyone.

Easy for me as well. Chose my sister as my maid of honor, my 3 best friends and my FH's sister. Just choosing people that I love and speak to often,

I chosed my sister, sister n law, besties, a couple of cousins and of course my daughters. Real easy for me, I didn’t ask neither of them. I just told them they are my bridesmaids 😂🤷🏾‍♀️ They were down for whatever. My ride or dies ❤️

My FH chosed all of our sons and my sister boyfriend. Most of our wedding party is our children tbh💞

I have four girls, the first three were easy to choose. My maid of honor is my best friend that knows me and is someone I can rely on for anything, also she is FH's sister. Then I have my best friend that I also went to high school with and then my third is another best friend. She is married to my FH's best man. The fourth girl I chose based on our history together and even though we grew apart from moving to different jobs, we have always stayed in touch and been there for each other in tough times. Do not consider who is expecting to be in your wedding party! I thought about this for a brief moment, but it's a silly thing to consider.

It took a second for me. My close friend group is a group of 5 girls and that’s not including my MOH, sis in law, or future sis in law. So I had to make the cut based on what other PP said, who I couldn’t see enjoying the whole day without! It made the decision way easier when I thought about it in those terms

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I chose some of my closest friends, but I also took into account some factors.

1. Were they in a place where they could handle the financial obligations (which we tried to keep super low, but still)/social stress? For instance, one of my dear friends had *just* recovered from cancer, AND she's been in a gazillion weddings... we involved her in a different way, because I just couldn't, in good conscience, add to her stress in ANY way.

2. If I felt overwhelmed/stressed, could I turn to them and NOT overburden them, or know they could help me calm down? (As in, were they friends who understood my family situation, or were they friends I didn't usually share that with? I ended up having major family drama - which I anticipated - so it was really important to me.)

3. How well did they know each other? (DH didn't really take that into account... and, well, let's just say SIL still owes a few people an apology. On the other hand, mine were all friends to begin with, so we were all super chill.)

I'm also in my mid-30s, so I've seen a few BPs absolutely go nuclear, and I just didn't want that at all. In the end, 3 of my BP were also already married (2 to each other), so I had the support of people who have done this before and also modeled good relationships.

I always knew who i was going to have because i always imagined it was to be them and couldn't picture anyone else

Those who were closest to me so basically my older god-sisters are co-maids of honor and 4 younger sisters will be my bridesmaids. I do have a teeny issue with excluding people so the remaining girls will be honorary bridesmaids i.e. they'll get similar dresses, but won't stand up there with us. There's just way too many siblings for me & FH doesn't have as many people for his side so this was the best decision for me.

It was a very easy choice: My twin sister is my maid of honor, and my two nieces are my bridesmaids. My fiance's best man is his closest friend, and his two sons will be the groomsmen. My grand-niece is my flower girl, and my fiance's grandson will be the ring bearer.