Wedding Party Plus Ones

We didn't do plus ones. We invited all partners of people in relationships (some were new relationships and we hadn't met them before), but no true plus ones. Basically, everyone who was dating someone could bring their partner, but no purely random dates. Unless there is someone in your wedding party who won't know very many other people, I think it's perfectly fine to not extend plus ones. It's a nice thing to do but you certainly don't have to.

Only one person was single in our wedding, but we gave her a plus one. She decided not to bring anything because like you said she was busy all day and didn't want the person to feel all alone. We did a sweet heart table because we didn't want to separate the bridal party from their significant others.

We chose to do plus ones only because some of them are married or in serious relationships. We would not have given a plus one otherwise. I think if you're allowing a plus one for general guests, then I would also extend the favor to the wedding party. Hope that helps!

A plus one is only for truly single guests. Significant others are not plus ones. Fiance and I have attended many weddings before without an option of bringing a date and never once did we not enjoy ourselves or not know others there.


Plus ones are random strangers whom you will never interact with again and most only attend with the intent of crashing your party. Many people only want those they know and love in attendance. A random stranger is neither. Plus they are expensive.
While we have not formally asked our attendants because it is way too early, fiance and I do not see this as an issue because our truly single attendants know the same people who will be invited.

I personally only give +1s to those with significant others. I am not paying hundreds of dollars for Jane Doe to bring her boyfriend she met two months ago

If you're going to separate your loved ones from their dates, why allow them the option of a date in the first place? Most wedding parties prefer to be seated with their dates during dinner and not on display alone.

With covid may be easier to not do plus ones for now and add them in much later should things improve. ❤️

This is just how I feel. I am allowing plus ones. Most of the wedding party is married/engaged/dating (long term). I would feel badly denying that. Our venue has a raised stage, that's where the wedding party will be. They will each be able to sit with their loved ones at their own individual tables while still sitting with their loved ones. My MOH expressed her husband would be uncomfortable sitting at a table with randoms. Which I 100% understand. This is just how I feel, but ultimately it's what you and your future husband want.

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See and that's exactly what we don't want. We don't wanna spend unnecessary money on a random stranger that we don't know and will most likely never see again, and don't give a crap about our wedding just coming for the free food and alcohol.

Thanks for your input!

We're allowing plus ones for our bridal party, but it's easy for us because all the groomsmen are my FH's brothers, best man is his dad, and they all are married. By the time of our wedding, I'll have two ladies that are married, and two in serious relationships. We're also doing a king's table (head table), and will have our wedding party sit with us. Their SOs and families will be seated closer to our table. Again, our situation is easy because it's all family, or friends that all know one another well.

I agree with PP that if you're allowing other guests to have a plus one, that it's only right to extend that offer to your bridal party.