Wedding party plus ones?

SOs are not plus ones. They should be invited guests named on the invitation. Single wedding party members should get plus 1s in my opinion since they are your VIP guests.

View Quoted Comment So where would they sit? If my wedding party is at my head table. Also what will they do while wedding party is with us all day during pictures

People in your wedding party are also guests at your wedding. I’m having an out of state wedding and everyone in my bridal party received a formal invitation addressed to them and whoever they are with or if they are single it was addressed to them and Guest. All of my wedding party is bringing a guest or their significant other and for the reception we my FH and I are at a sweetheart table and then bridesmaid with their guests are at one table and then groomsmen with their guests are at another table. Hope this helps. Good luck!

My bridal parties SO’s met us at the reception. That wasn’t really an issue. I also wouldn’t seat them apart. I personally think they should be seated together. I know I’d be uncomfortable if I had to sit with people I don’t really know while my husband sat at a different table.

View Quoted Comment We can’t fit our guest without a head table. We have to have a head table or else we go over our allowed number of guest. We already have over 300 people

We are inviting the SOs of wedding party members but not giving plus ones to the single members. ALL of these people (~20) will be at the head table with us. I definitely think you need to invite SOs, and it's very considerate to either invite them to the head table or do a sweetheart table and let the wedding party sit at other tables with their SOs.

View Quoted Comment So u are saying to have the couple sit at the head table? Our coordinator said men on groom side and woman on bride side. She never mention having them at my head table? So Let’s say groomsmen (girlfriend) she would sit on my side? She wouldn’t be in my party tho

Hey, Brianna! Great question, since there's not really a common sense response. Wedding party members are typically considered guests (VIPs, even), as are their SOs and +1s. It may be nice to seat all of the +1s and SOs together at the reception so they can chat while the wedding party is at the head table. As far as what would they do & who would they talk to...they're (likely) adults and can socialize or not as they see fit. Yes, they're your guests but you don't need to worry about entertaining everyone individually! Let them mingle until they can dance with their dates

My brother is a GM and single so he won't be getting a plus one. My FIL who is also the best man is on/off again with his girlfriend so when invites go out and they're not together he won't be getting a plus one. I think you should rethink your seating arrangements so that significant other's can sit with their dates, especially if they don't know anyone else. At a wedding I was at recently they did a headtable but it was big enough for wedding party to have their dates sit with them.

View Quoted Comment That's the traditional set up. We chose to ditch tradition to make things work for us. The SOs of wedding party members will be seated across from them at the head table. It meant everyone gets a seat, nobody sits alone, nobody is awkwardly facing the crowd, and conversation will be easier.

View Quoted Comment Hmmm interesting idea💡

They all deserve plus ones. If they have to entertain themselves as SO’s then oh well, they are adults.

The idea of a head table that separates the bridal party from their dates/SOs is a very outdated concept. I’m not sure why your coordinator would even suggest that. Would you like having to sit separate from your husband? That’s beyond rude. If you can’t sit them all at the head table then have a sweetheart table for just you and your husband.

Yes you you should allow everyone in the bridal party to have a plus one if they choose.

The bridal party's significant other's should absolutely be invited. For single bridal party members, you should give them and option to have a plus one. Yes, the SO or plus one will be alone at the ceremony and probably cocktail hour if you're doing pictures then, but they'll survive. Weddings are romantic events so it's polite to let your wedding party enjoy the reception with their romantic partner.

As far as the table goes, a lot of brides and grooms choose to do a sweetheart table (just your and your fiance) instead of a head table so that the bridal party can be seated with their guests. Our venue actually doesn't even offer a head table, only a sweetheart table because that's what's popular right now.

If anyone is in a relationship, their significant other is invited to ours. The few single people will not get plus ones just for the sake of having a date (would love to but can't afford that). If you're doing a head table then their SO should be there with them. Your bridesmaids can sit on your side with their people and groomsmen next to the groom with theirs. Men/women separated only works if everyone is single. I was the MOH at my friend's wedding and she wanted a head table and I refused to sit at it without my FH. So we have one big head table of 13 I believe with everyone's SO. It worked out great!! But you can't expect someone to be at your wedding and not spend any time with their SO. Not cool.

We invited all of our wedding party with an option of bringing a SO or guest because they're important people to us and I want them to all be there to celebrate with us and enjoy the day! It added up to quite a few people (18 total including bride and groom) so we decided to modify the head table idea and do 3 round tables of 6 each - bride and groom, MOH +1, BM +1 at one table, scattered bridesmaids and groomsmen and dates at the other two tables. That way we get to chat during dinner with our nearest and dearest, their dates sit with them, and we won't be too crowded! It's not exactly standard, but it's what works best for us.