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Wedding party numbers

Kevin, on October 21, 2019 at 8:33 PM Posted in Planning 0 10

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So my fiancé and I were originally going to ask 3 people each to be in our wedding party. I have one friend who I’ve grown more close to since being engaged and I really want to ask her to be a bridesmaid as well. She has been really great as she is the only one in the party that is married so she’s been through it all before. Feeling the pressure of forcing my fiancé to ask her husband as a groomsman to make the numbers even. He doesn’t mind and we are all good friends, but I feel like I’m making him ask him. We have not asked anyone in the party yet either. Any advice?

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Latest activity by Suzie, on October 23, 2019 at 9:28 PM

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Sarah · on October 21, 2019 at 8:57 PM
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My advice would be to just have uneven sides. It’s very common. Don’t have your FH ask her husband unless they’re close enough for him to choose him on his own.
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Legend November 2019
Caytlyn · on October 21, 2019 at 9:06 PM
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Uneven sides are completely fine and you don’t get to dictate your FH’s side of the wedding party.
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Suzie · on October 21, 2019 at 9:40 PM
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Yes, agreed! We have a similar situation, so now I have 4 and he has 3. FH is totally ok with me having an extra person. I’ve found on here that uneven numbers is actually quite common.
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Heather · on October 21, 2019 at 10:10 PM
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We are actually having even numbers on each side we are having 4 each side didnt exactly plan that way just happened haha
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null · on October 22, 2019 at 8:24 AM
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I wouldn't ask someone to be in the wedding party just for numbers. We almost did that, but it's silly and kinda insulting (even though that person probably wouldn't know). We're having three on my side and two on FH's side. Uneven sides are no biggie!
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Anna · on October 22, 2019 at 9:30 AM
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People aren't props! Have uneven parties.
My fiancée has 6 groomsmen and I have 5 bridesmaids. It's perfectly fine.
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Kevin · on October 22, 2019 at 10:10 AM
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After reading the comments I’ve gotten, I feel like I didn’t word my post right. I’m not forcing him to ask, I think pressure by my decision would have been better wording.

It was my FH’s idea to ask her husband to be a groomsman. I just feel like he wants to ask him to make the numbers even. I was suspicious of his choice because they aren’t that close. When I asked him about it, he said that hopefully they would get closer after he asked him.
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Just Said Yes December 2019
Alexandra · on October 22, 2019 at 1:55 PM
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My wedding is going to be about 50 people. We are having 2 on each side. I have plenty of girl friends (including my sister in law) I could have added. I have asked a few to still be with me while I am getting ready to still be part of the experience. Thankfully everyone is understanding. I hope this helps
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Lady · on October 22, 2019 at 3:17 PM
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Uneven sides are totally normal and not a big deal at all. That's what I would do.
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Suzie · on October 23, 2019 at 9:28 PM
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If he doesn’t seem that bothered by it, then no worries! I don’t think guys put as much weight on the GM choices as we do with our BMs. Sounds like he’s looking at this as an olive branch to build a better relationship with this person, so that’s a positive!
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