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Wedding party not invited to micro wedding

Jessie, on July 22, 2020 at 2:00 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 5

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So we postponed our wedding to next year due to COVID. But we're still doing a small ceremony and dinner in September with close family. With close family. We were debating inviting the wedding party.. 2 groomsmen and 2 bridesmaids (our MOH & BM is my sister & his brother, so they're invited).
They're obviously still invited to the wedding next year but I feel bad not including them in this. But FH's grandma is paying for the dinner, and I don't want to burden her with having to spend too much money...

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Latest activity by Leanne, on July 22, 2020 at 5:44 PM

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Veronica · on July 22, 2020 at 2:06 PM
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Has she given you a budget on what she is comfortable spending for the dinner? If you don't want to burden, but want to include your bridal party could you pay the difference? Just a thought so you can have them there and they don't feel excluded.
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Melle · on July 22, 2020 at 2:15 PM
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I like Veronica’s idea of you paying the difference. I think it would be nice to invite them
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Waitingtomarry20 · on July 22, 2020 at 2:21 PM
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I agree with Veronica. If no budget, then ask your her. If budget then you guys can pay the difference to include them. You are not obligated to invite them if it’s close family only.
With our new date, all the restrictions, and just not wanting be responsible if someone gets sick; we went from inviting immediate family and a few friends to just immediate family to finally just parents. Just don’t want to exclude anyone, but had to make a final decision. Oh well!
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· on July 22, 2020 at 3:50 PM
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We're doing the same thing, but for purely covid-related reasons.

What Veronica said about offering to pay for the extra guests is a good idea, but I think your friends will understand if you don't invite them. Also, if you feel really bad about it, you could invite the rest of the bridal party to the ceremony over Zoom/FaceTime/whatever, even if you're not offering to invite anyone else that way. If you stick with your decision not to include them in the mini-wedding, I would really just frame it as "close family only" and not mention that your maid of honor & best man are included because they're also close family.
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