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Annika
Expert November 2020

Wedding Party Issues...

Annika, on August 11, 2020 at 10:12 AM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 10

Hey WeddingWire.

So originally (Last September/October we asked them) I had 3 bridesmaids, one MOH and my FH has 4 groomsmen. Then one of my bridesmaids completely stopped talking to me for no reason and when I asked her what was going on and if she was still planning on coming and she BLOCKED me and I haven't heard from her for almost a year now. My MOH lives on the other side of the world and has to have jaw surgery so she can't attend my wedding (sad, but completely understandable) . So then I was down to two until I reconnected with a good friend of mine from HS, who was super excited about the wedding and who I visited only 3 weeks ago, and didn't seem to have any issue with coming down for the wedding or buying her dress. Just this past weekend though I reached out and asked her if she had been able to get her flight or dress yet and she said "oh I thought I talked to you...Im moving next month and I cant come to the wedding because I cant afford it plus COVID..." I told her I totally understand and good luck finding a apt and job etc but I am super upset because not even a month ago she was completely fine and planning on coming to the wedding, was looking at flights (which are SUPER cheap right now) and was about to order her dress. I already knew she planned on moving and told her that I could help pay for her dress while she got settled but she said it was no problem that she had enough to pay. So i thought awesome,its official shes coming, so I bought ALL the bridesmaids gifts (some are personalized so non-returnable!) and started to talk about planning the bach party. Plus she was totally fine with hanging out with me 3 weeks ago, and has been going out to places with other friends but now all of a sudden she isn't ok with it even though she continues to be around other people? I know I shouldn't be upset but the thing is that no one is excited for my wedding and I have hardly any friends so the fact that 3 SEPARATE PEOPLE have cancelled on me really hurts, even if they have an excuse. Thankfully I am good friends with FH's groomsmen (although one may be getting kicked out because hes being a jerk friend to FH) but it hurts a lot when I don't have any girls to celebrate with since my mom and I don't have a good relationship and the bridesmaids I do havereally aren't interested in my wedding or anything to do with it. I guess this is mainly just a rant. I just feel so sad and everything keeps going wrong with this freaking wedding I'm so done. Smiley heart

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Latest activity by Annika, on August 12, 2020 at 7:44 AM
  • Margaret
    Master October 2020
    Margaret ·
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    It absolutely sucks, I'm so sorry. Sadly, other people friends or not are never as excited about one's wedding as much as the person /people getting married. Just know you have an entire community here that's more than willing to listen and help as much as possible

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  • Annika
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    Annika ·
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    Thank you, it's kinda crazy how strangers from the internet are more empathetic than my own friends and family...Smiley heart

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  • Margaret
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    It's because we all have something in common.

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  • Annika
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    So true...Smiley heart Smiley heart Smiley heart

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  • V
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    Unfortunately like Margaret said, no one is as excited as the bride and groom. Only one of my bridesmaids (my husband's sister) really talked to me about the wedding. She has been a bridesmaids so many times that we've lost track. We have joked that she is like the woman on 27 Dresses. She also used to work for a wedding planning company so she knew everything that goes into planning a wedding. Otherwise, the only time I talked with my other bridesmaids was when I needed to share info like cost of hair and makeup if they wanted it or location and time of rehearsal. I can also tell you I lost one of my best friends during planning my wedding. She hated my fiance for breaking up with me when we first started dating. We got back together two months later, but she never really got over the fact he hurt me. She was badmouthing him and I for months to friends and family including my own mom. There was a huge fight that ensued and we have talked since. Wedding planning really shows who your true friends are.

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  • Annika
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    Wow that really sucks, I'm sorry! It's been hard because my bridesmaids won't even respond to the important texts like budgets, schedules and s dresses. It was like pulling teeth just to get them to pick a dress and now they wont buy it and they are getting very close to not ordering in time. I originally wanted all my bridesmaids to wear something different that they were each comfortable in, but they just didn't care to look anything up so I ended up giving them a few options to choose from. Its been so hard because not even our parents are excited for us bc of COVID and money and UGHHH so done. sorry...Smiley heart

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    I'm so very sorry. Your bridesmaids obviously know when they need their dresses by so hopefully they will have them by then. If not they can attend as a guest. Most of my girls ordered their dresses on the day we went shopping, but not all of them did. They knew when they needed to have it ordered in time and it all worked out so hopefully that's the case for you. Covid has done a number on a lot of people. I have been out of a job for almost three months because of Covid. I've been applying for jobs nearly this whole time, but I live near Baltimore & D.C. so there is a lot of competition for jobs. Currently the job search is on pause because we are looking to buy a house and we aren't 100% on which area. I pray everything works out for you.

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  • Annika
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    I sure hope they do. It's hard since I live across the country from one bridesmaid. COVID def has, my FH has been out of work this whole time too while I've been an essential worker, so I totally understand people being short on funds and such, but then when they post on Instagram about shopping sprees or hanging out with a group of friends and then tell me they don't have the money or need to social distance?? We are already sacrificing SO MUCH to make this wedding COVID friendly as possible and it just feels like a slap in the face you know? The only bridesmaid I feel has actually cared about this whole thing is not able to work due to her husband being in the army and having a 2 year old so she has been selling handmade stuff and working her butt off to be able to come to the wedding. (I offered to help pay, she refused) Its just hard.

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    I really hope it works out for you Smiley smile I honestly can't imagine having to go through what so many brides and grooms have had to go through. We have had several friends postpone their weddings.

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  • Annika
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    Thank you, we do too. Its been insane to say the least lol!

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