Wedding party drama..lost 2 bridesmaids!

I can understand but remember quality over quantity!! You don't want to look back in a few years and ask yourself why you randomly asked someone else to be in.

Thanks Shelby, I wouldn't just throw someone random in..I have a couple girls I could ask (obviously not as close to them as the others) but friends nonetheless. It's more so a matter of the wedding being two months away and I don't see the dress coming in time for the wedding!

I would say let the MOH and the 1 BM walk down the aisle with 2 guys each.

I went through something similar. 12 days before my wedding, at my bachelorette party no less, one of my BM's caused a big stink because she wasn't the one asked to be the MOH. She had been simmering about this for months but I didn't know it. The arguing and bickering pretty much ruined the bachelorette party and this girl who had been a friend since high school said some pretty ugly things. By the next day she made it clear that not only was she not going to be a BM but she and her DH wouldn't be coming to the wedding at all. Unfortunately our friendship is over. I asked her if I could buy her bridesmaid dress which she had never bothered taking to be altered (seriously? with the wedding less than 2 weeks away?) She agreed. That same day I asked another friend ( a really nice girl I like a lot) if she would step in and be my 4th bridesmaid. She said yes. She tried on the dress which fit her perfectly and it did not need alterations at all!! It's like it was meant to be. The new BM was able to attend the rehearsal and rehearsal dinner. With the 1st BM out of the picture, things went so smoothly up to and including the wedding. Everybody got along and there was no more drama. We all had fun and never gave another thought to the 1st BM. Her dropping out was probably one of the best things that could have happened although it didn't feel like it at first.

Yes, I'm currently in this situation. My bridal party was already uneven. I have my brother as man of honor and two bridesmaids. FH has best man and 3 groomsmen. I was ok with it being uneven because as others have said, I wanted people truly close to me who will still be close to me years down the road.

Well, just this past week I found out that one of my bridesmaids will not be able to be in the wedding. No drama or fights, just won't be able to do it. She is currently living in Australia and we don't know when she will be able to come in and if there were issues with travel, she didn't want to leave me high and dry. I totally understood! So now I had the predicament of whether to fill her spot or to leave the bridal party at two for me and four for FH. What I decided to do was ask my 9 year old cousin to be a bridesmaid/junior bridesmaid/whatever you want to call it. We just went to get her dress today and it will come in just in time! So...you may consider asking a younger cousin or someone that could stand it like that. I am not having flowergirls/ringbearers. If you aren't either, you could consider adding a flower girl to your side if you want things even.

Don't be afraid to leave it uneven though.

I'm so sorry you are in this situation, but like Shelby said, sometimes its quality over quantity. I wouldn't stress about an uneven wedding party. People do that all the time. It sucks to lose a BM, but even more so, a friend. Best of luck.

Do not feel bad about it being uneven. I had 6 girls and FH had 4. He felt that there was nobody else that could really be on his side and didn't want to ask anymore just bc he was afraid of it not being even. Then, one of my BM dropped 2 weeks ago (MIA). I was totally okay with it. It's still uneven but it really does not matter. As long as you have the people who truly care and love you and your FH that's all that matters. I agree that you can have your MOH and BM walk with 2 guys each.

I have 2 BM's and 2 MOH's my FH has a BM and 2 GM. I'm usually all for symmetry but for my wedding and who I really want standing up with me. One of my MOH's may or may not be able to come as well as she will be 6-8 weeks postpartum at the wedding.

Mine is uneven now as well.

Like some of the above posters said, quality over quantity!! I'm sorry that this happened to you but I think you will look back on this day and see that the people who truly matter were by your side.

Yep, had a BM drop out 27 days till the wedding. It sucks but you will have a great time and it all will work out!

No feeling lousy over this! There is no tradition or history to having even numbers of groomsmen and bridesmaids. None. Just a human desire for symmetry in photos, i guess...

I had more guys than girls - by design, because that's what each of us wanted - and I say 2 girls you WANT at your side on your day is better than any number of girls who cause you drama! Focus on having two wonderful, supportive women standing by you on your day. Don't let the other girls steal your joy.

Stick with who you have and call it a day. Nothing says friendship like "hey, I need even numbers and just lost a BM. Will you take her place so my pictures will look even?" Uneven parties are just as great as the even ones.

If this is about wanting to include the two other girls, but not having time to order dresses, you could have them be ushers. Otherwise I think you'll be happy with the BMs you currently have because there is less drama potential.

This happened to me, thankfully 3 1/2 months before the wedding. I lost a friend, although I'm sure she wasn't a good friend and I was relieved to say good riddance and was extremely thankful that it didn't happen closer to the wedding, or worst, the week or day of! Seriously, do no worry about the uneven bridal party. To me, the key phrase was "friends for 3 years" - My MOH and other bridesmaid and I have been friends since we were teenagers. The friend I lost due to her drama and issues in life and jealousies - her and I were only friends for like 4-5 yrs. I learned, for me anyway, that the bridal party should consist of life-long friends and family. This one girl caused so much drama. Of course she was there for the free lunch and martinis I treated them all to after we all went out bridesmaid dress shopping, but couldn't come up with the deposit. Two weeks later she was all weird about still not having the money for the dress. A month before our dress appointment she had done some expensive botox treatments but couldn't come up with $125 for a dress. But I stayed cool and calm as a cucumber about it and just let it play out. Finally, she accused me of posting "a passive aggressive" meme on my facebook and swore it was about her. She had so many issues that I couldn't deal with. This wasn't the 1st time we had had problems either. There was an incident last summer where she got super defensive over something I can't even remember now because it was so ridiculous. It was all too much. My life-long friends since we were teens would never ever cause me such anxiety right before my wedding because they love me and care about me. Sooooo, I thought I was going to have an uneven bridal party, and I was ok with it. I wasn't going to let that consume me. When I told FH about it, HE was the one all weird about the uneven bridal party. I find it funny ... I was the one in total acceptance of it, I didn't love the idea, but it is what it is, there is so much more to wedding planning to worry about than an uneven bridal party. I love the idea of having 2 groomsmen walk with one girl. Its perfect. For me, it turned out ok because FH said he could ask one of his brothers to step down, which this brother was relieved because he has 4 children in a 2 bedroom apartment, works 3 jobs, and has no time for himself, let alone our wedding. I think he was grateful when FH told him the situation. So, we don't have an uneven bridal party anymore. But, I was perfectly ok with it either way. Don't stress. And be relieved the drama wasn't caused closer to your wedding.

Nothing wrong with an uneven bridal party, and really you'd want your true friends stand up with you on this day. 2 guys per girl, or have both guys walk together, maybe they can have fun with it!

Nothing wrong with an uneven bridal party. You still have 2 amazing friends to stand by your side. Just think it's two less gifts you have to buy for someone who don't deserve it You can have the girls each escorted by two guys if you were thinking of having them walk in pairs originally. It will all work out. And Rebecca's photo with the uneven bridal party looks great. If you are worried for the bridal party poses you can search for uneven bridal party photos to get some new ideas for different poses, or alter ones you had in mind before (if you had a photo list for bridal party shots).

Embrace who you still have with you and have a ball. My MOH, my niece dropped out 3 months before the wedding. Lots of issues. A very good girlfriend of mine of 8 years had originally declined because she didn't want to show her arms. When I told her what happened the next morning she texted me and said she would wear the dress even though she doesn't like to show her arms but if wearing it would make me shine on my day she would. She said that there had been too much drama already and she wanted to help make things more smoothly for me. So what I did was emailed the company to see if they could make matching shawls for all of the girls. This way they could either keep it on after the ceremony or take it off and she was very happy with that. I believe I have the best people in my bridal party now. Everything happens for a reason.

Oh girl, one of my "friends" who I had asked, mostly out of obligation since we had been friends for 15 years... I asked her to step down after she told me she no longer cared about our friendship. I had asked her to give me her opinion on a style of BM dresses I was thinking of (planning super far out because I have a really full year of school this year and will not dedicate any time to wedding planning during the school year) and she could never give me an answer about just what her thoughts were. She kept saying that she couldn't make any commitments and so I asked her if asking her to be a BM was too much of a commitment and if she would rather just come as a guest and not feel any pressure and just have a good time. She told me if she wasn't standing up then she wouldn't even come. C'est la vie. She had some other rude things to say about me and never was really happy for me except when I had asked her to stand up. She even had the nerve to tell me that she loved weddings and loved standing up in them and still wanted to be in the wedding... but not that she wanted to be there and support someone who had been there for her for 15 years. I have made friends in the last 5 years who are better friends to me than this girl has been in a long time, and if it means having an uneven bridal party... I don't care one bit. I would rather have that negativity out of my life. Nobody needs someone who just lives to stir the pot because they want the attention on them. Your day will be special because you have people up there supporting you and your FH - unevenness be darned.

I am dealing with that issue right now. I am 6mts out from my wedding and I had to put one of my friends out of my bridal party. We have been friends since we were young. But ever since my engagement up to the planning she has been causing me problems. First the dresses then the shoes. I changed dresses to fit her budget but that was still an issue.. well the rest of my bridal party has benn trying to plan a party and other stuff and she has not been corporating. I was tried of her and all her negative comments that I told her she can just be a guest.. truth of the matter is that you out grow some people over time.