Wedding Party Dilemma

If they can put any ill feelings they may feel for one another aside in order to support you then it shouldn't be a problem. However, if they can't get along then I would be very concerned. Since they are both happily married I would hope their history doesn't interfer with either of them being in your wedding. I can tell you our groomswoman used to date one of my husband's good friends and his fiancee (now ex-fiancee) used to date the boyfriend of another one of our friends. They were all invited to our wedding. They all got along just fine. Our wedding was one of the first events the good friend and groomswoman had both attended since they originally broke up about 5 years ago and I was so nervous they would cause a scene, but the exact opposite happened. The good friend found out his ex-fiancee was cheating on him and he ended his engagement a few weeks after our wedding. He also realized he still had feelings for the groomswoman and she realized she still had feelings for him as well and they are back together now. So I worried for nothing. My suggestion would be to sit down and talk to your best friend about this. I would tell her why you are concerned and see what she has to say. I am confused why you mentioned your fiance's sister and her trying to have kids though.

View Quoted Comment The best man cheated on FH’s sister who will be a bridesmaid. I wanted to show that they’re both entirely moved on with their lives with their SO’s.

View Quoted Comment Oh okay so your best friend is your fiance's sister right? That's what I thought, but I wasn't 100% sure if your best friend his sister were one in the same.

View Quoted Comment If they are the same person, that's strange to me that your fiance would stay best friends with someone who cheated on his sister. There is no way I'd be friends with someone that cheated on my siblings.

If this happened ten years ago and both parties are married, I don't see the big deal. Like you said, you're all adults now. I'm sure best man is happy with his wife and "sister" is happy with her husband. This is just one of those things to let go of.

If you're really concerned about it, I would be up front with "sister" and tell her they both mean a lot to you and you'd like to include them both. I'm sure if she's a rational adult, she'd be fine.

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I think the "sister" is just her FH's very close childhood friend, so they consider each other siblings at this point.

View Quoted Comment Still early in the morning so my mind wasn't reading that correctly. I see that now that you've pointed it out. I still think it's odd the groom stayed friends with someone who cheated on someone he considers his sister, but to each their own.

How long ago did this happen? I understand that hurt may be there, but if they are married with/trying to start a family, the drama should be done with. Everyone is an adult. This is the same mentality I have with my bridal party, because I have a lot of strong personalities: suck it up. You’re there for the bride, not the drama. It’s not hard to be friendly for the few events you have to be, and then you never have to see each other again.

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I thought that too. I guess there's two sides to every story, who knows lol

This is a non issue. If they have attended parties you have hosted and have been fine, I don't see why your wedding would be any different. It's been 10 years. Both are married. I don't think you need to do anything.

It's your day, they should be able to put these feelings aside for you. Also, if both are happily married, I don't see an issue. I would sit them both down and have a discussion with them and air out everything