Wedding on Saturday and in laws not coming

I see where they are coming from, but at the same time they're the ones that said dont postpone it. Kind of weird that they said to leave the date, but then arent coming because they "dont feel its appropriate". With your wedding being so close I would just keep the date and make the best of it. It's a crappy situation. Good luck

Do they have to travel for the wedding or are they in the same town?

View Quoted Comment They live an hour and a half from the wedding. Same state

I'm so sorry that is happening. It seems like an excuse to be honest, but that is on them. There isn't much you can do but be there and get married as planned. I'm sure she will notice they are not there, but the people who are there and the importance of the day should help remind her she is loved and supported.

View Quoted Comment It’s definitely an excuse I just don’t know what changed. We all have a really good relationship

Someone could facetime it or video it on their cell? It's very sad but a lot of time and money goes into a wedding, I definitely wouldn't cancel, etc. It's crappy but like others have said, make the best of the situation. In the end the wedding is for you and your FH...I doubt the grandmother would want you to wait..I know mine wouldn't have.

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I'm so sorry to hear it. I hope the day is beautiful for both of you. I like the suggestion on facetiming, but I would bring it up quietly to her mom and brother in case they decline. No sense giving them another opportunity to hurt her if that is the case.

I’m sad they won’t at least attend your ceremony. Unless they’re at the hospital every day, 24/7, and even still, not sure why they can’t take a few hours to support you both. I’d be disappointed for sure. But may you be surrounded by the love & support of all who do attend! 💕

Why don't they all get together eith gma and video call during the wedding so even gma can be there?

DH's grandfather couldn't make it due to medical issues, as well. We had his younger cousin facetime the ceremony (kiddo did a great job, Grandpa saw/heard everything, kiddo dodged the photographer, and we actually didn't even notice him!), which meant a lot to Grandpa, and made us feel like we could include him when he was stuck across the country.

The underlying reasons are awful, though, and I'm so sorry these choices aren't good.

Honestly. Give her a happy day this kind of situation is touchy and that kind of thing can take a turn at anytime. Just charish the day and see if someone will do a live feed so the mother and brother can view it as if they were there. Good luck sweets best wishes for your guys happy day

It is sad for your fiancé. But also nice that they do not want her to put her life on hold, and want the wedding to go on. They are putting your fiancé marrying you as the most important thing. Whether or not they feel they can be there. Having been with a few local relatives when they were dying, I see it as a long process, but one where at some point, things are different. Either the person is suddenly worse, or they are disoriented or upset when their favored caretakers or visitors are not there. I would have had difficulty at some stages, not others, with an event with 2 hours drive each way, plus 10-12 hrs of trying to be sociable and excited, in a large group of people, for a family wedding. When I was so depressed, I could not come up with a smile. MOB is losing her mother. And grieving and loss start long before death, for many with someone they love in the long process of dying. Try to be understanding. And grateful that they have not tried to put a damper on your wedding. Just not attend because right now it is too much for them .

View Quoted Comment I left out a lot of information because I didn’t want to get into it. I appreciate your feedback but this isn’t the case for them. They are being extremely rude and told us it’s not appropriate for the wedding. They have since blocked us on social media and from any communication with them as well. I have experienced this type of loss. My father passed away at the age of 51 two weeks before my sisters wedding, which she had already moved the date up so he can attend but didn’t make it. My sister got married in the same church his funeral was in and the same church my parents were married in. We ALL showed up for my sister on her wedding day including my grandfather who just lost his son. A week ago she said she would be at the house by 12 noon the day of the wedding we told them to come around 3 instead so they wouldn’t be away that long and just stay for 2-3 hours which she does on a normal work day anyway. She has given us excuse after excuse now.

View Quoted Comment Sorry to hear this. One thing she did do right, was months back, when she told you not to reschedule the wedding. Because in spite of whatever rude thing she and bro are doing now, it is true you need good days. So do not let their bad behavior ruin your wedding. Life does go on. You two will be each other's closest family now. I hope you have a great wedding. And a very happy future. . .