wedding nightmares...about my ex!

Some people say your dreams reveal what your conscience feels, maybe in the back of your mind you always envisioned yourself marrying your ex, and that is why you are dreaming of him. If it wouldnt bother your FH, I would contact your ex and get some closure on the whole situation. Maybe you just need to know that he has moved on, and there are no hard feelings...?

I honestly wouldnt contact him as it can bring up a lot of old feelings and things unless your good friends. I think for a lot of people its normal Lets face it most people never forget the first big love. My mom has been happily married for over 20 years and says she still remembers her first love and heartbreak and used to dream about them being married after she was engaged I think our mind wanders in our sleep and we sometimes think about things even though we know we have the right person now.

I agree with Aussie. I wouldnt contact him. I dream of my ex's every now and then. I dont think it is because I have feelings. I also have dreams about high school friends that I have not seen in 20 years. I dont think it means anything.

OMG are we living the same life???? I dated someone for a little more that 5 years and I loved him to death even though he was wrong for me. We got engaged and I new it was a mistake so we finally broke it off.

I've had the EXACT same dream....that is so crazy. I wake up feeling like crap first because I remember him and everytime I think of him my heart kinda breaks and then I feel like crap because I LOVE my FH more than I've ever loved anything in my life and having that dream makes me feel so guilty and dirty....arrgg it sucks.

Omg i had the same thing happen! my ex and I were together for four yrs and i stopped talking to him for my husband too. Like a month b4 the wedding i had dreams i was cheating on my husband with my ex. Don't contact ur ex thats the worst thin you can do, plus you doint want ur fiance to think anything. Im the happiest ever with my husband and when i look back when i was with my ex it was a waste of time

I have not had a dream like that but since i got engaged i have had some really vivid dreams about right before the wedding cermony that my wedding dress was no where

to be found...and someone says dont worry we will go

to a dress shop 10 minutes away...I said to him you

dont understand you dont know how long it took me to

find this dress.....Im not gonna be able to find a dress

in 10 mins...so in my dream my fh was waiting at the alter

and I had to tell him i need to leave to find a dress since

it was lost and not to think im standing him up. I told

him to wait for me...LOL

what a crazy dream...I think you have crazy dreams when

you are stressed!!!!

I think you girls are right....what good could possibly come of me calling my ex?!?! If I do meet up with him, and there are no feelings its not like it will neccessarily stop my dreams...and god forbid if I do meet up with him and there ARE feelings!

My fh is the love of my life. In the 4 1/2 years we have been together our relationship has been effortless....like we were meant to be (which I think we are) Your first love will always be your most memorable, your most intensive, and he was a big part of my life for 4 years....of course during that time I did think I was going to marry him. It's only natural that I dream we did get married.

Thank you ladies for talking me out of calling him....prob would have given him a big ego boost though "like ha, she isn't over me yet"

Exes are exes for a reason. Don't self sabotage this wonderful chance at a happy life with some one who loves you the way you need to be loved, and who wants you as his bride!!

I would not contact my ex either since that is part of your past life and you have since moved on. One, I wouldn't want him to get the wrong idea and two, I wouldn't want to make my FH upset since he would probably get upset if he found out I contacted my ex. I think it would open up Pandora's box.

Yes it is normal to dream about an ex- you were with for so long. No, don't take it too seriously or contact him. Hopefully just knowing it's typical will be enough to get it off your mind more and they may go away. Mine are very few and far between at this point.

I KNOW WHAT YOU MEAN!!!! My ex and I were together for over 5 years, we broke up, then 2 months later I met my now husband. Then 3 years later we got married. After getting engaged I had dreams, some clean and some dirty ones! I was so weirded out by it. The ex and I still talk on facebook, but that was it. So I know how you feel, same thing happened to me. Just try to ingore them.

@ STRAWBERRY. Yes, I had cheating dreams too!! This is so weird. My ex was also the same situation where we were madly in love but not great for each other. He drank too much and we fought all the time. yet we just couldn't break up.

Thank you ladies so much. I can't tell you how much better I feel knowing this is pretty normal. I love my fh, no question there, and I know he is the one for me so I need to stop letting these dreamsmake me belive other wise