Wedding night

We live together, we own a house together haha. We are sleeping apart the night before (my girls and I are getting an air bnb) and we've agreed to not have sex for a week before the wedding to build some excitement! We aren't too worried at all about it being overly special, the wedding is about our future together and commitment so for us the wedding night isn't a big stressor or element in the wedding day

We stayed in a hotel the night of near the venue (even though we lived 20 minutes away). Also, not gonna lie, we were super exhausted and did not consummate the marriage that night.

We will be living together for 2 years 3 months by our wedding and will be together for almost 3 years by the time we get married I am planning on getting lingerie and just enjoying eachother

We had been together five years and living together for almost two when we got married. We did stay separately the night before - when we left the rehearsal dinner, we embraced and acknowledged it was the last time we were seeing each other until I walked down the aisle. It was still very exciting, and still special to be spending our first night as husband and wife.

I feel like we will be really tired and just crash.
We are sort of non-traditional in that we aren’t combining households...but hear me out! Two years ago I moved into his building. We are the only apartments in it, we’re on the second floor, he has an office downstairs and the building owner has the other. It’s really free flowing. It was a total bachelor building the me, my daughters and cats moved in and brought chaos, but we both like having our own space.

My FH and I will have been living together for 2 years by the time we get married. I am spending the night before the wedding with my family and will definitely be getting some new lingerie in his favorite color (also one of our wedding colors) to wear.


I'm thinking one of my gifts to him will be new lotion from Bath & Body Works and I expect either he or I will give the other a massage (depending on who needs it more!) before we crash from exhaustion. We both love pampering and taking care of eachother and there is a good possibility my FH's bad knee will be acting up by the end of the day. My back will probably be a mess of knots from holing in my stress and tension.
I'm trying not to have big expectations for sex on the wedding night. I'm usually way more interested in it than my FH is and his interest drops sharply when he is physically or emotionally tired. If it has to wait until the honeymoon, eh, it will be just as wonderful and emotional for our first time as husband and wife. If it is quick but pationate on the actual night of the wedding then I will be happy, too.

We own a house together but might get a fancy hotel room for that night

We're spending the night before and day of separately and splurging on a hotel the night of the wedding. Other than that I think our wedding night will be special on its own.

We’re spending the night before apart and have gotten a hotel room for the night of. Although, I think we’ll both be too exhausted to enjoy it lol. I have been debating doing a mini getaway (we aren’t doing a honeymoon) for two days after the wedding for us to take it all in.

View Quoted Comment Lol, same here!!! Happy but waaay tired (and hubby was sick before & on wedding day but rallied enough to party).

We didn’t have sex during the 2 months leading up to our wedding. I think that really helped make it special. Plus it’s the first time as husband and wife so that In and of its self is special! It was also a priority for us to be intimate that night.

We were too tired to do anything except shower on our wedding night.

My suggestion is don't put too much pressure on yourselves for that night to be special - you're going to be tired and stressed and that's just one more stressor.

Next month the big Month!! Excited and ready!!

FH don’t see the value in spending $500-750+ for one night in a hotel (wedding venue is in the heart of the city and hotels are very expensive) so we will be heading home. After a whole day of festivities and lots of drinking and dancing, not to mention we are early birds who go to sleep at like 10pm each night, our wedding night will not in the slightest be intimate but instead will probably be us dashing to rip my heavy crown and dress off and hit the sheets to sleep lol!

We've been together 7 years, lived together almost 5. So while it would be nice to have a special evening after the wedding, we've discussed that if it doesn't happen, no biggie. I've heard of many couples falling asleep from just being so tired after the wedding, so I won't be surprised if that happens lol We are getting a hotel suite though and my family is going to decorate it, so we'll try to make it as special as we can.

View Quoted Comment Aww, that sounds like a lovely arrangement!

View Quoted Comment We will be abstaining prior to the wedding also! Although ours will be unintentionally haha FH will be out of the country for 3 weeks prior to our wedding. He’ll be arriving back in the U.S. 4 days before the wedding, so we have decided to keep the abstinence going until the wedding night, just to make it more special. We will also be staying separately (him at our house, me at a hotel with my MOH) the night before the wedding.

He stayed at his parents' the night before his wedding.

But, uh, here's the Not So Secret Truth about your wedding night:

It's not special. Well, it is if you REALLY like your pillow.

We got home from our wedding, DH helped me take a gazillion bobby pins out of my hair, unlaced my dress, and helped me carry it to a chair. He put away his tux while I scrubbed my face. By the time I was done scrubbing my face, DH was practically snoring. I hit the pillow and was out like a light for nearly 10 hours.

The next morning? DH went and got us breakfast, and THEN we enjoyed being married.

But... you're EXHAUSTED on your wedding night. It's very rarely sexy fun times.

Oh, I would like to make a suggestion to all...

Arrange for some food to be in the room, if you're not going home. If you're going home, consider having something easy/premade that will be waiting for you.

We were freaking STARVING when we got to our hotel room. Neither of us ate at the wedding (adrenaline and interacting with guests) and when we settled in, we realized... holy COW, we should have had the limo driver take us through a McDonald's or something.

The hotel had dropped off a fruit plate, so we had that, but... man I wish we'd had some cheeseburgers or something.

My fiancé and I have been together for 4 years and have lived together for almost 2 years by the time the wedding comes. We decided to abstain ourselves from any sexual activities for a month before the wedding to build some excitement and sexual energy. We also will be sleeping at different places the night before the wedding and for the wedding night at the hotel, I’ll be wearing lingerie.