Wedding Nerves

It's all about how you think about the day. Instead of thinking about all the stressors, try and shift your focus to marrying the person you love. At the end of the day, it's a big party to celebrate the love you have for each other and the start of this next chapter. Whether the centerpieces were just right or the favors were done, etc. don't really matter in the grand scheme of things.

I’m having the same issue! We are having a destination wedding and I’m freaking out about packing up the car and getting down there. I feel like I’m going to forget something or my place is going to be dirty. I know once I get down there I will be fine. Whatever I do forget, then it must not have been that important. I just need the next 4 days to go by somewhat fast so I can just relax when I get down there.

I have been pampering myself with face masks and getting my hair done. I also have been chilling with my animals. Giving them one on one time with me.

View Quoted Comment Thank you! I’m really trying to work on it! I’m a little bit of a control freak and it’s something I’ve been planning for so long it’s really hitting me that it’s right here and about to take place! But I do for sure need to look more positively at the event instead of letting it eat me up!

View Quoted Comment I’ve been doing facemasks and tanning and trying to do what normally calms my nerves as well! It helps for a little while before I get nervous again. I know it’s mostly good nervous but I’m calling it “wedding brain” where I forget almost everything and all I can think of is the wedding 🤪

I am 11 days away and I get what you are saying. The PP is so right. Focus on what this day is about and don't sweat the small stuff. I felt myself getting overwhelmed this week and hung out with two of my bridesmaids tonight. We talked about everything non wedding related. I so needed that. It put things into perspective and I feel more relaxed. Your day will be awesome even if it's not perfect.

View Quoted Comment That is what I need to start calling it!! This is my last week of work before I take off for 2 weeks and man have I been forgetting a lot at work! I started writing them down for me to remember. This afternoon while packing up the wedding decor, I “lost” my fiancé’s ring that he had me hold for him because he would lose it. While I ended up losing it myself and that’s only because I didn’t look right next to me when I went into the closet. I looked for 30 minutes and then finally when I calmed down, I saw the black bag I put it in to keep it safe! I didn’t remember moving it over just a tad to get into something else. I felt sooo dumb!

Remember that no one at your wedding is going to know if something went wrong except you. Focus on what the day is about, and don't worry about the little things. Think of all of the weddings you've been to - how much did you really care about the centerpieces or little tiny details? I'm sure you appreciated them and thought they were nice to look at, but beyond a "those are pretty!", are those the things that made you have fun? Probably not! As long as you have decent food (and I'm sure yours will be better than decent!), alcohol, and music, you're going to be fine!

I've been married for 6 years and the only thing I freaked out about that day was my bouquet. There was a miscommunication with the florist about my "vision" for it, and I honestly hated it. I cried in the bathroom before I put my gown on. And now when I look back at pictures, I look at the bouquet and just think, "I still hate that thing" lol, but I also think it was so silly to get all worked up about it, because it just didn't matter. I don't know if that story helps but I'm just trying to say that, even if something goes wrong or makes you cry in the bathroom, years later you'll probably look back and just go, oh my gosh was it really that serious? All my other memories of the day are amazing

You're going to have a great wedding day, I know it! You're going to marry the love of your life, celebrate with your closest family and friends, and have an amazing set of memories to look back on. Good luck with everything!

Thank you for all of the sweet encouragement! I’ve been trying to work on accepting that if something goes wrong that it’ll be fine no matter what. I got myself a couple facemasks to use this week and I’ve been doing a lot of self care (starting a new Netflix series) which has helped a ton! The “wedding brain” still is there but if that’s my biggest problem then I think I’m doing good!