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Wedding July Help

Angel, on April 22, 2020 at 8:54 PM Posted in Community Conversations 0 10

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I’m fully lost with everything going on. My fiancé and I have been holding off to postpone our wedding in July because we are so unsure what will really happen. The news has been so back and forth on what is happening with COVID 19 that it literally makes me sick with worry. I have my family pressuring me to just give in and cancel it. I feel like they don’t care. The issue we have with trying to rearrange things is that we love our venue and don’t want to move it anywhere else. The fall is most likely full with brides that have already been scheduled or are being rescheduled. Neither my fiancé or I want a winter wedding, we don’t like the cold and don’t want to deal with an anniversary around the holidays. My fiancé starts into Grad school next May and he had already pushed off starting school so we could get married prior to him starting. We’ve been engaged for over 2 years as it is and I really don’t want to push it another year. We both have been waiting to change jobs until after we get married so a) it’s an easier transition with paperwork and such b) job stability c) not wanting to spring so much change at once d) we know our current jobs are at least flexible with us wedding planning and taking time off for the wedding. I’ve been struggling with a deep depression due to everything going on, but with being an essential worker in a halfway house, I only become more drained. I’ve been dreaming of this moment since forever and don’t want to throw things together or go down to the courthouse. What should I do? Should I stick to the plan or ditch it all and try to figure something else out?

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Latest activity by Kristina, on April 24, 2020 at 5:07 AM

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Anais · on April 22, 2020 at 9:31 PM
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Where are you located and how many guests have you invited?
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Daniel · on April 22, 2020 at 9:34 PM
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I would call the venue and see what they say
I think by July things should be open back up I am hoping by June but it is to far out to see. But ask the venue there advice and say to them if you are still closed then what are your options with them. You can always get married and have big ceremony at a later time
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Angel · on April 22, 2020 at 9:44 PM
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We are getting married in CO with under 100 guests invited. I’ve spoke to my venue and they don’t have concerns yet of June or July weddings. They are just in the process of moving the April and May weddings to other dates. I hope that things will be ok by July, but what do I do about my family who are scared and telling me I need to cancel? I already know our honeymoon will have to be moved, but I just cannot accept that our wedding will have to be moved quite yet.
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Autumn · on April 22, 2020 at 11:14 PM
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Perhaos di what me and my FH are doing - if all that matters is your love, and things are still crazy, just keep your wedding and cut it down to just parents/siblings!
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Stacey · on April 22, 2020 at 11:57 PM
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I’m a July 11th bride. We are keeping our date and my FH is wanting me to send invites out in the next few days. We have our website and will be keeping everyone posted of changes if needed. While I think many locations will begin opening by our date, I am concerned how many people we can have at once. We can practice social distancing still if needed. I’m sure our guest list attendance will be smaller then planned but I’ve had many people tell me they are still coming. So, I’m still praying this works out. Good luck to all of us, we need it right now.
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Octavia · on April 23, 2020 at 7:40 AM
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Most venues aren’t allowing June/July weddings to be postponed yet, so you can put it on them while you are monitoring the situation. Honestly though, most brides are still getting married on their date by an officiant and just having formal ceremony later. I would closely consider that in your situation. It takes a lot of the edge off and you can still begin your married life and do a vow renewal/formal wedding ceremony at a date of your choosing.
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Jenn · on April 23, 2020 at 10:21 AM
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I'm sorry that this is all happening to you. It sounds like you really needed this!

I personally think that even when the lockdown releases and everything calms down a bit, people might still be scared to be in a place with lots of other people for a period of time.
Are you guys open to weekday weddings? I know bunch of people that are now opting for that because they don't want to move it to next year or do it in the winter.
And for the paper transitions for his job, maybe you guys can get legally married on the original date in your backyard or the courthouse and have the wedding ceremony and reception you guys wanted and planned for later?
Once again, so sorry!
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Sarah · on April 23, 2020 at 11:13 AM
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Hi there, I too was supposed to get married in July 2020. We decided earlier this month to postpone to April 2021. It all really depends on your state/situation. We are in Maryland, and my venue already had moved April-June weddings, so I decided to call them myself and offer to change my date and they were totally understanding. Honestly, things might open up by then but people will still be in fear of contracting the virus until there is a vaccine. You may not be able to fully enjoy your wedding, especially with social distancing rules. I would change it, just my opinion.
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Angel · on April 23, 2020 at 6:08 PM
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That is a good idea. I might look into doing that. Thanks.
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Kristina · on April 24, 2020 at 5:07 AM
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I am also a July bride. At this point, I’m keeping my date of 7/18. I have waited 36yrs to find and marry the love of my life and we want to start a family. It’s been so stressful and I’ve been so depressed, I know myself that I will feel guilty if I change. I’ve had several people already tell me they are coming regardless. I just have to continue to keep my faith that it’s going to work out. A lot of guests may not come and that’s understandable but at the end of the day it’s you and your man. I would keep the date.
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