Wedding jealousy?

You get a day, they get a day.

Life goes on after you get engaged.

Let it go, or you're going to make it a contest; and that's going to bring drama and negativity into your life.

You are definitely tripping!

Be happy for your brother and stop hating!

A wedding is just one day. They get their day, you get your day. That's it. The time leading up until the wedding is not considered part of your wedding. If your engagements overlap, that does not affect anyone from being happy for you on your wedding day and same for your brother.

Yes. You should just be happy for them. They get a day, you get a day.

I don't think your terrible for it. He might totally feel the same way.

With their engagement really fresh and your wedding over a year off, he's the one people are excited about right now, but give it two months and the engagement will be 'old news' as long as he doesn't end up scheduling his wedding for June next year too, you'll both have plenty of time in the spotlight. ETA: I can kind of get your situation because my FSIL got engaged the same weekend, FH proposed. I haven't even met her yet! She set her date for January, and ours is in May, so I'm being careful not to bring up our wedding stuff on days meant for her to shine and trying to schedule prewedding stuff around hers (though she isn't sharing a lot of info at this point lol)

Overreacting. be happy for each other! Life events happen and they don't happen one at a time. Recently one of my best friends just told me she's pregnant(and finding out the gender on our wedding day!! ), I have another cousin who's pregnant, and a few friends who are also engaged. Let it go, and have fun planning!!

I def agree with A Magill in May! Give it some time to blow over all the engagement excitement

Just be happy for them and do not act out on your jealousy. I got engaged six months after a friend of mine. She said she was so happy we were planning our weddings together but told me I had to have mine after hers since she was engaged first. Even going so far to say, "We can talk about your wedding the day after mine. Until then we don't need to talk about it at all."

I didn't realize because she was getting married before me that meant (in her eyes) that we would only talk about hers. I still remember that conversation and I am still a bit bitter about it. She let her jealousy get the best of her and it was hurtful.

Good grief!! There are so many posts about jealousy of other weddings. Get over it! Other friends or family members will get engaged or married around you. It's really not that big of a deal and you need to let it go. The world does not revolve around you and it is most certainly not a competition.

My brother had an on and off again engagement going on for awhile and when FH proposed and we picked a date they decided to finally pick a date a few months before ours. Which cool, I didn't really have an issue with other than my mom being more involved/interested in all of their planning and hardly any in mine.

I'd say overreacting, but it's okay; we're human and have weird emotions sometimes.

Trust me, by the time you get a few months away, you'll be so glad you have someone else getting married to redirect the conversation towards. I now hate the "So....how's the wedding planning going?" conversation.

My wedding is two weekends from now. My mom was all panicked that I'm taking my daughter to a friends birthday party this coming weekend. I had to say "mom, I get one day. I don't need anything else. Life has to go on!"

Its the same thing. There's people getting married the day before, the same day, and the day after you. Life goes on after this wedding. Don't get hung up on stuff like that!

Joy is not a finite resource. Be happy for other people who have happy news. More happiness in the world is always a good thing.

Our wedding is May 20, my MOH/FBIL are Aug 19, friends of ours are Sept 9, my little cousin(bridesmaid) is Oct 7 and our closest friends are Nov 18 we are happy for all of them and don't feel like it's an issue at all. They won't overshadow you because you'll each have your very own day.

Just be happy for your brother! It's not like your FSIL chose the same wedding date as you or a date close to it so just enjoy it! this is a big time in your life as well as your brothers don't cause yourself unnecessary stress

I get the reaction but try to realize that this won't take away anything from your wedding and be happy for your brother. Even if you feel jealous, don't say anything because it will only make you look bad

My brother got engaged shortly after me and my fiance (we have both been married before and he did the same thing the first time too ... go figure) well my wedding the first time was very very very small and kinda sad lol his was a blow out ... this time it's reversed.. I've got the big ass rock and financially we have it set and won't go into debt by throwing a great wedding... so I'm not as jealous