Wedding isn't what we wanted

Who is paying for the wedding?

Is she paying for the wedding? If not, you can plan the wedding you want, not the one she wants. If she is, you might want to consider declining her offer, and planning a small wedding you pay for yourself.

View Quoted Comment My mom is paying for the food but my gpa already paid for the venue. That shouldn't matter. It's not their wedding, it's ours. We said we'd pay for everything because we planned for a small wedding and they have taken matters into their own hands.

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I'd see if your grandpa can get his money back for the venue. If he can, I would sit your mother down and tell her you will be paying for your own wedding and it will be very small if she isn't willing to work with you on a good "in the middle" option for both of you.

If the date on your profile is correct, your wedding is just around the corner. Although I sympathize with your feelings about this, I can't see what can be done at this late date. I'm sorry you feel like your mom has hijacked your wedding. But it seems a bit late to worry about it now. I would say at this point, just enjoy as much as you can. I'm sure there will be people there that you wanted to be there (and it sounds like a whole lot you didn't care about having there!), so just have as much fun as you can with those most special to you. The best part? At the end of it all, you will be married to your love!! That's what it's all about after all.

Moms often get really excited, and can go overboard when their daughter gets married. I'm sure she means well. Maybe just try to appreciate that she loves you and wants to give you the world! Also, be grateful she is here to do this, even if it frustrates you. A lot of us don't have our moms anymore. I would give anything to have my mom here interfering with my wedding!!

Moms and parents in general can get so overly excited and tend to think it's theirs. So you've got to just be like I'm so happy your helping and excited but you have to remember that what I want is such a different vision from yours

I would sit mom down and let her know what you both wanted. We all accept that money toward the wedding comes with a few extra invites but 400 definitely seems excessive. A family member is going through this with the bride's mom and my heart breaks for them. We will be there to support them, but said mom is already panicked that his side isn't going to have as many as hers. No one knows how to tell her it's because his side is by his invitation not mom's.

If your wedding really is just a little over a week away, outside of canceling I don’t think there’s much you can do.

If your date is correct, you can either cancel and lose out on all of that money (which I'm sure wouldn't make your family thrilled), or you can go along with it at this point and rejoice in the fact that you are marrying the person of your dreams and all of those people will be there to celebrate with you. Sorry you feel that way, but I would have put my foot down long ago!

View Quoted Comment Sadly this seems so.