My intimate wedding has turned into a large scale affair and I'm not sure how to scale it down. I think I just got carried away and now it's this whole big thing. I thought that I was okay with it, but now it just seems really extra. We're locked into the venue, which is a boutique hotel that we bought out for the entire weekend. Our guest list is approaching 200 when we wanted 75-100. Since it's a weekend at the hotel, we decided to do a welcome dinner and a "farewell brunch". Also I meet a lot of people through my job and have interacted with a lot of people who I think are expected to be invited. It's just a lot and I'm feeling overwhelmed because the wedding is in less than 4 months. I think if we could find a smaller venue that would help, but since it's so close to the wedding I feel like that would just add more stress. My fiance wanted to elope and I didn't and while he's not upset we're doing a big wedding I know he wishes it were smaller. This wedding is just starting to feel less like "us" if that makes sense.