Yesterday my fiancé and I decided to cancel our May 2021 wedding and to hold off on any new plans. While there are so many unknowns with the virus, I’m aware that many people are planning for spring 2021. There is more to this though, and I’m wondering if anyone else can relate. The virus has been a trying time for so many of us—my fiancé and I are both really struggling through our own stresses. We are both under a lot of pressure and very overwhelmed in our jobs and deal with it in different ways so it’s not always easy to come together, although we are working on it. He’s a bit better at coping than I am, I would instead call myself a “a straight-up mess” and I don’t think that’s fair to him since he’s already dealing with so much and provides everything for us. So that brings us to cancelling the wedding. I really do want to marry him but I think I need to work on myself before I’m ready to get married. I hope this doesn’t sound like an incoherent ramble. Does anyone get what I mean?
No, thats your decision. If you feel you want to better yourself before marrying that is perfectly fine! When you two decide that the time is right, you can always do an elopement and have a wedding later! How does he feel about it?
It sounds like you made a sound decision. Only the two of you can understand the pressures each of you are going through. I hope you find the help you need to get yourself back in a good place. Good luck to the two of you.
I do get what you mean 100% and I think your decision is very mature and brave. It can only improve your future marriage to make sure you are really ready and in a good place. Hope you hug your fiance tight and know that things are going to get better!
I agree with pps that I think it speaks volumes about your maturity to postpone under the circumstances. Good luck taking some time to take care of yourself the way you need to. I'm a firm believer that if you and FH are meant to be together long term, it will happen, but right now it sounds like you have some stuff to work through on your own.
I understand what you're saying and it sounds like you're both on the same page which is all that matters! ❤️
Our lives have been flipped upside-down right now - take care of yourselves first and remember that you don't have to try to tackle everything at the same time!
I understand what you mean and like PP before feel you have made a very mature decision and will help you and your FH in the long run. I'm sorry the wedding is postponed but on the bright side you and him have more bonding time and you'll grow to be a stronger couple.
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While we were excited, I do think this is what we need to do. He feels the same way. Honestly I was leaning more towards an elopement from the beginning anyway. I’m very happy to have him on the same page and in my corner while I work on myself.
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Thanks, Lynnie. That makes me feel better. We’re just taking this one day at a time. I know stresses are high for everyone right now. Even though we cancelled our wedding, I know we’ll still have one someday.