Wedding Invites

Yes, you should only invite the number of people your state will allow. I would make sure to take vendors into account as well.

I'd say it is a bit risky. We checked the regulations when it was time to send out invites and we were just under the wire. We got a lot more yes replies than I had expected.

Hi Brittany! Hope the regulations ease prior to your wedding for you ❤️ I would think it is risky, so tread carefully. For frame of reference, we invited 162 and 110 attended last August for a Friday evening wedding. Hope this helps ❤️

I am in a similar situation and anticipate that enough people will not come so that we can invite everyone, but I don’t want to assume. So we sent invites to our family and bridal party and then will reevaluate the remaining groups as we get responses.

I think it would be risky - it would be tough to invite someone, then have to uninvite them later on because too many people RSVP'd yes. I would only invite the number of people that you are allowed per COVID restrictions.

Def. risky. I'd only invite the number you're allowed to have currently. Then for every declined response, you could send out one of the extra ones and so forth. That could work!

Only invite what you can actually host.

Going to go against the grain here but I'd say go for it. Generally around 1/3 of people decline anyway, and for our wedding the attendance rate was closer to 50% (now, most were traveling). I think you're fine with 20% over, especially during covid times.

Only invite the number that you can actually host.

View Quoted Comment I agree with this. People will decline your invite and then some unfortunately some will respond Yes and still now show up. Plus the restrictions in your area could change by the time of the wedding. Good luck!

I wouldn't invite more than what your state mandate says. I except that restrictions should loosen further, but I wouldn't be sure of it. You can hope that 30 people won't show up, but you can't be sure of it.

Yes very risky. I would only invite what your state is allowing and no more than that. Yes more than likely you will have people decline however you may end up with a wedding where everyone invited comes which does happen. And you do not want to roll the dice on this and then have to make those dreaded calls to people telling them they are no longer invited.

Always prepare for 100% attendance. Don’t invite more than the venue allows. Cut out by all obligatory invites to please other people: coworkers, parents’ friends, friends you haven’t got in touch with in 5 years, etc

It's unfortunate and awkward, but we only invited what was allowed, and have been adding subsequent invites as we get rejections. It's keeping our numbers right at what is allowed currently, even though I anticipate that things will open up a lot more by our wedding. Bonus is we save money!

Def. Don't over invite. Also, is that 150 total or just guests? Do Caterers, Bar tenders, etc. need to be included in that count? That can also affect your guest list

This is a wedding, not an airline. You can't bump people to another wedding if 100% of them accept and show and you don't actually have a seat for them.

Will all of them accept? Most likely not. But what if 160 accept? That's 10 people you get to personally offend by calling them and telling them they are no longer invited due to restrictions you were aware of before inviting them and just hoped that you wouldn't have to worry about.

Not only is this risky, but the potential damage (hurt feelings, offended loved ones) is not worth the risk.

View Quoted Comment Absolutely agree with you

I wouldn't invite more than the legal restrictions allow. Some people may bring an unexpected guest or something and push the numbers back over. I would look and see if you can cut the numbers back down to 150 by cutting children, SOs who haven't been together long, co-workers you're not actually close with, etc.

I did, but but I was about 90% sure some out of town family would say no (about 15 people) and they did

I'm July 2, 2021 and am in the same boat. Our outdoor spot only holds 160 (per the venue) and we have 190 on the list. Our venue suggested we mail out 175 (because we know a solid 20 will say no) and then continue sending from there. We are also putting in a slip of paper stating due to covid restrictions an early rsvp is greatly appreciated.

*I'm hoping our governor opens up the state prior to then like other states are doing and we will be able to have it indoors