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Just Said Yes October 2019

Wedding invites

Rachel, on May 13, 2019 at 11:24 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 10

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I sent my invites out in April for my October wedding. Early I know. But we are also buying a house and I thought if I could take care of as much wedding things as possible I would be better off. But now everyone is angry saying hope I don’t forget. I want to be nice but if they don’t come then I guess it wasn’t important to them. Is there anything I can send out after I have already sent out invitations?

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Latest activity by Nafisah, on May 14, 2019 at 4:56 AM

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Formerbride · on May 13, 2019 at 11:31 AM
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You could create a Facebook group to keep people updated with a countdown or gather emails and send a reminder that way. Whether they had 8 weeks or 8 months people will forget. What's done is done. Don't sweat it!
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Jessica · on May 13, 2019 at 11:36 AM
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Ugh that is annoying.. like.. if it is important to you, put it on your calendar like other stuff! I agree with the above.. maybe send them an email.. but on the other hand, I feel like you shouldn't have to do that and the important people will remember
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2d Bride · on May 13, 2019 at 11:40 AM
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About all you can do is call people if they don't reply by your RSVP date.
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Meghan · on May 13, 2019 at 11:45 AM
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I agree with 2d Bride. I would call /reach out to people who haven't RSVP'ed by your requested date. It is a pain, but you would have to do that regardless of when you sent your invitations. I'm also getting married in October and we are planning on sending our invites our 8-10 weeks before and I am sure I will end up hunting some people down for their RSVP.
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MrsD · on May 13, 2019 at 11:53 AM
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It seems odd they would be angry about it. You did send them earlier than normal, but who cares? I would just expect people to not forget a wedding they RSVPed to.
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Hannah · on May 13, 2019 at 12:08 PM
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Yeah, people need to relax. Almost everyone literally carries around a calendar at all times. Throw it in your phone calendar and keep it moving. I like having more time because that way I don't already have something planned when I get that invitation.
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Theresa · on May 13, 2019 at 12:35 PM
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Seriously. Everyone has a calendar. And if the Day Of isn't a good enough reminder, then write 1 Month To Rachel's Wedding! on the previous month. Or 2 months out. Or put a reminder in your phone calendar.
Goodness, people need their hands held to do anything these days.
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Champion June 2019
Gen · on May 13, 2019 at 12:50 PM
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When are you requesting RSVPs? If you were requesting RSVPs super early too I would say I understand that people may not know what they are doing that far in advance, but if you gave a normal RSVP deadline then I don't understand what people's problems are lol. You are right, if it was important to people they could just put it in their calendars. I've been invited to 2 weddings in the past year, and upon getting the save the dates I literally instantly put it in my phone calendar. And that was 6 months before one wedding, and 10 months before the other wedding. I haven't forgotten either one! lol
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Ali · on May 13, 2019 at 6:44 PM
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If they care they wont forget. I dont think it's a big deal to send them early we just bought a house and it was super stressful so it totally makes sense to me why you did it early.
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Nafisah · on May 14, 2019 at 4:56 AM
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Some people can't plan that far in advance that's all...and sometimes they lose things so trying to hold on to it for 4 months could be difficult. Ineouod just dona check up when it's gets closer. Maybe around the time a typical invite would go out. 6-8 weeks.
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