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Wedding Invites After Elopement

Rachel, on November 11, 2020 at 4:42 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 1 8
Hi guys! We had a small ceremony with our immediate families on 10/10 and planning our big wedding for 10/09/21. I'm working on invites now and my question is should I put my maiden name even though it will be changed by the time invites go out? It seems strange to invite people to Jane Doe and John Doe's wedding, but it also feels weird to use a name I'm not keeping! Is anyone else dealing with this? Thanks in advance.

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Latest activity by Yasmine, on November 12, 2020 at 8:07 AM
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    VIP January 2019
    Maggie ·
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    I would use the name you will being using at the time of the event. People will already know you are married, so why would they think it's weird to receive an invitation from someone with your name that you have been using for a year?

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    Master January 2019
    Cassidy ·
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    Interesting question.
    I didn’t put my last name at all. My parents helped pay so I worded them like this
    Mr and Mrs parents with my maiden nAme invite you to the wedding of Cassidy Middle name and husband whole name (first middle and last) So that may be an option if they’re helping pay. If not I don’t think there’s a wrong answer. Maybe
    You’re invited to the wedding celebration of you and spouse married name. Since you’re already married and this is the celebration. I hope I helped a little.
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  • Mrs. Spring
    Master April 2021
    Mrs. Spring ·
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    If you are already married then this may be referred to as "a post wedsing reception" or "vow renewal."
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    Master 0000
    Judith ·
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    You may use the name which you are using post marriage. Or avoid the issue and use your first names only. Are you doing a vow renewal, or a reception for the ceremony you already had? Smith-Brown part I wedding ceremony followed by Smith- Brown part II Reception would seem reasonable if you are looking at it that way.



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  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    You should put whatever your name is when you send out the invitations. I would find it weird to get mail from someone with a name that they changed a year prior.
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    Super October 2022
    Michele ·
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    Be honest with your guests. You are now married so use your married names. They are being invited to a renewal of vows, not a wedding.
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  • Michelle
    Master April 2021
    Michelle ·
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    I would use your married name- people know your married. It would be super weird to get an invitation with your maiden name. I’d be thinking “but I thought they got married last year???”
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  • Yasmine
    Master October 2020
    Yasmine ·
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    My husband and I are doing the same thing. My name is already changed so that's what I will be putting on the invites.
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