Wedding Invitations / rsvp Wording

People know that if they don't RSVP, they won't have a seat. Putting that on the invitations sounds incredibly rude, no matter how you word it. Invitations typically go out 6-8 weeks before the wedding. The RSVP deadline should be 1-2 weeks before your final headcount is due. Gifts and registries should never be mentioned on the invitation.

Hmmmm as I have seen issues brides have had here and in the past is that not everyone has common sense nor reads the website and some people do not know about RSVP. Maybe it is not proper etiquette but I believe in being transparent. Maybe just say in order to reserve your seat RSVP by...

I don't think it's that necessary to put "if you do not RSVP, you will not be saved a seat". My FH and I just put our RSVP date on the invitations and on the RSVP cards themselves. Our RSVP date was January 15th but we gave our guests until January 20th before we officially cut it off, made our seating chart and finalized our numbers. I'm actually emailing our venue and caterer when I get off of work with our final numbers.

As far as invitations go, most say 6-8 weeks prior to the wedding - which is standard and proper etiquette. However, my FH and I invited a good number of people from out-of-state and we wanted to give them enough time to get everything in place with getting time off for work and planning their trip. Our wedding is February 29th (leap day). We sent out our invitations on November 29th and our RSVP return date was January 15th, but as I said before, we gave them until the 20th before we finalized our count.

For your registry, I would not put that information on your invitation. If you are having an accommodations card so guests know where room blocks are, you could put them on there; that's what one of my friends did for her wedding. Otherwise, I think it's fine to list it on your wedding website regardless of if you have an accommodation card or not.

People know if they don't RSVP, you'll assume no. I wouldn't mention that at all. If people don't RSVP by your RSVP date, then you call them to confirm if they are coming or not. If they don't respond to that, you mark them as a "no". I'd personally find it rude if someone put "if you don't RSVP, you won't have a seat", because...duh. We got married on 7/20/2019 and sent our invites out the first week in May. Our RSVP date was June 10, 2019 because we needed the final count for our guest transportation 30 days out.