Wedding invitation

Id send them 12 weeks before the wedding

Since a lot of your VIP's will already be aware of the date (wedding party, parents/family, etc.), at least some word will have come out through word of mouth. I'd say just keep up the standard "no less than 8 weeks" for a local destination. If this is a destination wedding then I would start considering 4-6 months!

I'd also just do 8 weeks before

I agree with others that the 8 week suggestion is almost always a good one. So many brides have the mentality of, "I'll send them out early, so I get the replies back really early and can finalize all my plans," but it VIRTUALLY never works out that way. Guests who get invitations months in advance typically think, "that's MONTHS from now...; I don't know my plans" and put the invite aside, either to forget about it entirely or send it back at the last possible minute. Send them about 8 weeks before the wedding and set the RSVP date about 7-10 days before you final numbers are due to cater/whomever. You'll likely STILL have to follow up with people who don't respond, but the odds are you'll get more responses and fewer last minute changes (e.g., people who accepted, then realized they can't make it after all -- or vice versa). Good luck!

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I'm not doing save the dates either. Our wedding is September 26th and I'm planning to send them out late June/early July. Happy medium between the traditional times to send out save the dates and wedding invites.

View Quoted Comment I’m a big plan in advance person Then I’ll probably wait until 12 weeks out gives me little leeway without stressing

I didn't do STD's. We actually just went to start our custom invitations last night and she said since we didn't do save the dates she suggested sending them out 10-11 weeks prior to the date. Our wedding is October 10, sending out invitations around July 25 with an RSVP date of Sept 5th.

We didn't send STD and our wedding is August 1. I am sending them by beginning-Mid April and asking for RSVP by June! So, I would say 3.5-4 months out is pretty good! That is what we have seen from other couples that didn't do STD.

View Quoted Comment I am too! That's why I figured the 12-13 week timeline would be the best option. Then have them rsvp a month or so before the wedding so I have plenty of time to get a hold of people that haven't rsvp'd by then. Way less stressful!