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Tara
Savvy August 2020

Wedding in one week and officiant might not be available

Tara, on August 21, 2020 at 1:28 PM Posted in Wedding Ceremony 0 7

So I'm getting married one week from tomorrow, and my best friend is supposed to officiate. However, she just called me to let me know her grandmother is very sick, and there is a chance she may not be able to make it to the wedding.

Obviously I completely understand, but now I'm not exactly sure what to do. We need to come up with a backup plan in case she's not there to officiate, but I'm not really sure who to ask. It's only our family and a couple of friends in attendance, and neither of the friends who will be there are much on public speaking. My BFF, her husband, me, and my husband all met working at summer camp together, so that's partially why we wanted her to officiate. Everyone else is very much either his side or my side, not any mutual overlap.

She also wrote the script already, so someone else could just read it. But will that sound weird? Gah, I don't know what to do. Hopefully she will be able to attend, but I want a solid Plan B in place.

Another friend had to bow out for health reasons, and two of my husband's friends also can't come last minute for various reasons...trying not to feel sorry for ourselves but disappointed/stressed just the same. What do you guys think?

7 Comments

Latest activity by Leanne, on August 21, 2020 at 9:59 PM
  • M
    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    I don't think it would be weird if someone read her script she wrote!

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  • J
    Master October 2022
    Jana ·
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    If she's not able to attend, last minute arrangements would need to be made for legal purposes (ordination of a backup at marriage license office, someone legally able to fill out and submit legal paperwork as your officiant, etc). Find out what she is able to do in the situation so it's still considered legal and valid.
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  • Tara
    Savvy August 2020
    Tara ·
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    Yes, we’re definitely going to need someone to get ordained as a backup. I’m more weighing who would be a good person to ask, especially on such short notice
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  • E
    Super October 2020
    Emma ·
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    Are there any churches near you? Even if you aren’t religious I know pastors can preform the ceremony
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  • Kelsey
    VIP September 2020
    Kelsey ·
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    Your could also look into judges or attorneys in your area; some of them are ordained to do ceremonies.

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    Champion July 2019
    Veronica ·
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    I agree! We had a mayor perform our ceremony.

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  • Leanne
    Super September 2020
    Leanne ·
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    I would hire an officiant/ preacher.
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