Wedding in a week, Depression!

My advice is this who cares if everything goes wrong. Ultimately the day is about you two getting married. And that's all you need to focus on. Many brides after they post their pictures post-wedding on the site have also the same thing that a day goes by super fast and to not sweat the small stuff. I'm sure your day will be fine. And if there are hiccups along the way it doesn't matter because the day is about you too. And the love you two have for each other. It's okay to be nervous, but just remember the fact that you two are becoming.

Read bam posts as pp said. They're very calming because pretty much all of them detail something that didn't go expected but yet it all worked out in the end

Just try to breathe and relax. Things will go wrong. Most of the time, these are things the guests don't know about anyway. Honestly, the day went by so quickly my husband and I barely remember any of the details (and neither of us had much to drink, so it wasn't that lol!). Yes, it may be a lot of people, but these are all people who went out of their way to celebrate the love between you and your future spouse. Honestly, the best advice I got from a former bride was to take a step back during the reception, when everyone is dancing and having a great time, and soak it all in with your new spouse. Because, at that moment, there are X number of people all there having fun and celebrating you two. It's a wonderful feeling.

Unpopular opinion here. You seem to me a little more than nervous. To say you do not want a wedding or starting to feel depressed is really off. Make sure your making the right choice with everything. Be well.

Do you have a counsellor/therapist/good friend who can help you talk through your fears at all?

I'm not a fan of being the centre of attention for a day, spending 1000s and worrying about every little thing either, so I get what you mean.

Maybe focus on the honeymoon/time off work/time with friends and family on the day. Remind yourself of all the things the day will bring that will bring you joy and lift you up.

Remember to breathe, and maybe write down all your worries somewhere.

Thank you for your words! Thank you for making me feel a little better .

There's nothing wrong with getting married at the courthouse, BUT I'm assuming you have already invited people, made deposits (if not full payments) etc. At this point, I think it's best to accept that the money is being spent and wedding is happening, no matter what. So you may as well do your best to enjoy it!

As for things going wrong... things WILL go wrong lol, that I can almost guarantee you. But honestly, on your wedding day, you won't care at all about the things that went wrong, you'll be so happy and surrounded by so much love!

Try to focus on the positive and allow yourself to feel excited and happy about this. You're getting married next week! You'll never be a bride or have another wedding again (theoretically lol) so just focus on the aspects of it that you ARE excited about. Even if you're not excited about the day as a whole, I am sure there are some things you are excited about. Seeing a friend or relative you don't usually get to see? Seeing your husband's reaction to you walking down the aisle? Getting to wear your dress? Just focus on those things... it's all going to be over before you know it.

View Quoted Comment Thank you so much for your comment. I feel so much better now. 🙏

Do you have a wedding planner or Day of Coordinator? If not, is there someone you can designate to field calls and make sure everything is going okay? If you know that there's someone to handle the little hiccups you might feel better. Planning a wedding can be really stressful! So, make sure you're taking time for yourself. At the end of the day, you're just there to get married so as long as that happens, the day is a success!

We got married at the court house love but planned to have a wedding in the future. And 3 years later, now we're here! I totally get how you can be nervous and never had a huge celebration in honor of you and your partner, but this is normal. The important part is that you're getting married to your special someone. Like a lot of people have said , a lot of brides post wedding have said the same things.

Yes, I have felt like that before. Cancelled everything, received deposits back and now I'm having a small wedding with just a couple of guests. Tbe cost should come to only $700.