I am attending one this weekend actually and already I am kind of curious how it’s gonna go because 1) her registry is literally asking people to pay for the wedding 2) she didn’t ask for rsvps.. she asked for people to RSVP for the ceremony which is in another location from the reception. But I don’t really feel like that’s a safe assumption? Especially given there’s a gap of 1-2 hours in between reception and ceremony too
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The bride for the one I went to registered at crate and barrel and there were no gifts that were under $200. Like, ma'am you're having a destination wedding and I'm paying to fly out there. You're lucky if you get $50 lol
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Ugh yikes that’s horrible! I feel that there should be a wide arrange of selections for pricing. This bride I’m going to asked people to contribute to different parts of the wedding e.g “pay for the dj” “pay for the florist” “pay for our photography” etc it was all cash funds so you could contribute what you wish but I just felt it was tacky
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That is super tacky. Is she not paying these people until after the wedding? It would be easier to just not make a registry so people get the hint and bring cash.
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I’m also kind of curious how her seating will be since she didn’t ask anyone to RSVP to the reception. The ceremony is five miles away but there’s a gap in between ceremony and reception Time.
My cousin had a wedding out in the middle of a barnyard. Not the barn, the pasture next to it. The guests were mostly women in niceish shoes and men in their dress shoes, many in long dresses, all picking their way over to her odd little flower arch. Not the most ideal lol. And then her food was cold by the time we got to eat.
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The one we just went to had a ceremony outside in 40 degree weather and they didnt provide chairs for the guests. And it wasn't a whole "repeat after me" thing and that was it. It was long vows and a whole religious thing. I also ended up being seated at a table outside, in the still 40 degree weather. The food was passed around the table like homestyle but there wasn't enough food on each plate for the whole table. I left very hungry lol
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We went to a wedding where they had the ceremony overlooking a beautiful river. But it was like on this patio thing at a mansion (reception was about 5 mins away). The bride was an hour and 45 mins late. I burn super easily and my shoulders got bad sun burn from standing outside, because we weren't allowed inside because the groom and the guys were getting ready there. I was annoyed and my shoulders hurt so bad. I think what really took the cake was that we never got a thank you card from them. That is so beyond rude in my book.
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Lol we also left early. My FH was like "they probably could have had better food by sacrificing for the ambiance." since chickens and the occasional horse kept interrupting the vows. At least it was spring in Texas but she barely found the one time that's acceptable.
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That's awful. If I dont get a thank you card for this wedding I will be very very upset. We paid for our plane tickets, rental car and my FH had to buy a suit which was like $600. All the guys had to get a suit and meanwhile the bridesmaids were told they could wear whatever they wanted. So he spent all that money for nothing. It was just a mess
We were invited to my FH’s coworkers wedding in a public park with a lake, it’s a lovely spot. She specified it was bring your own food, alcohol (which is illegal to drink in that park), fishing pole, and chair. Essentially they just showed up and said their vows then wanted us all to fish. I don’t think you need to pay for alcohol, but not providing chairs and then registering for $75 gifts seems like a lot.
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I've seen some of them and it's like something thats so bad but you can't look away haha
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Yeah. This wedding that I was talking about was a 17 hour drive one way to the wedding; we kind of decided to go last minute so we didn't get a flight because it was on Labor day weekend so flights were expensive. So we drove there. I was so mad when we didn't get a thank you note. And it was my FH's cousin. Mind you I sent a thank you note to his aunt for letting us stay at her house the Friday before the wedding. Like really not that hard to do.
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The farm part wasn't bad. The pasture that had just been used by horses...was not great. Lol. We all found out on the day that she wanted to enjoy the outside air instead of the barn she had been advertising.
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Yeah aha there were other things on there like honeymoon activities or items but A LOT of it was for the actual wedding “pay for the dessert table” “pay for my wedding make up” “pay for my wedding hair” etc in addition to the other things I had mentioned: dj, florist, photographer, etc. I bought the household items off the registry because I found it weird to directly pay for something of the wedding
1pm Ceremony 6pm Cocktail Hour This is normal in my area as 2pm is the latest you can start a wedding at most local Catholic churches. And we will be having a 3 hour gap. We have no hate on the gap.We skipped the ceremony (also super normal in my area)We arrive at the country club cocktail hour. It's outdoors, with ineffective heaters scattered around. Frat bros everywhere yelling at the Illinois football game. (Illinois football isnt known for being good.) It's announced that we can all go inside for dinner... but no directions. So we all wander around the building to get to the front. The whole place is packed in like sardines. At least 5 different rooms. We cant see the people giving speeches. Theres an open bar, but it's so hidden and packed, no one can get to it. Wait staff walking around with wine and water, but don't stop to fill your glass. It took 2 hours to get thru soup and an entree and speeches. The staff served cake to 5 people at our table, but refused to serve to the 6th until the speeches were over... 45 minutes later. Speeches are over, finally get cake, suddenly the wedding party is scrambling to find new seats. Their chairs were on the dance floor. Fiances sibling was in the wedding party, so we just said here have our seats and we ran out the back doors as fast as we could.
