Wedding & Honeymoon while he is in grad school?

While I was in grad school, I would not have wanted to have to worry about a wedding in October which (for me) was when my midterms were as well as grading for the classes I was teaching. It can be done, but unless he has a fall break, then I would talk about either postponing the wedding to one of his breaks when he has more time/energy to devote to the wedding/honeymoon (if you want to honeymoon right after the wedding) or get married and postpone going on the honeymoon to one of his breaks (Christmas or summer)... My friends in grad school who got married this year planned their wedding for summer break.

I am in grad school and will be getting married on the last SAT of the semester - i'm crazy, i know.

Really, it is not stressful at all. I am doing all of the planning and what was a lifesaver was that I got most things done early on during winter break. As long as you don't 'burden' him with details or expect him to make all of the vendor appointments it should be fine. As far as the honeymoon, you can expect a break around thanksgiving, but midterms generally hit during the month of October. I know you probably don't want to push out your honeymoon until DEC/JAN, but that would give you the most assurance that grad school will not interfere with the honeymoon.

I'm in grad school (PhD) and I did most of the wedding planning. It wasn't really a problem for most of it, since we started planning a year in advance, like most people do. But I definitely didn't do any school work the week of my wedding, and won't do any during our honeymoon. I'm not sure if anybody noticed I was doing nothing the week of my wedding, lol, but I did ask for permission for my honeymoon, it was fine.

My H was in grad school when we got engaged. We had a two year engagement so we could wait until he was ABD (all but dissertation) so he wasn't attending classes or anything. I do think that planning a wedding made him take an extra year to graduate.

It is doable but difficult!

Thanks guys =) If we wait for our honeymoon how long is too long? We are not really beachy people so we wouldn't want to do a resort or anything in December. We are also not winter/snow people so we would be kinda screwed if we waited until winter break. He mentioned maybe going on an Alaskan cruise in May when he has two weeks off but I'm not sure I want to wait 8 months to go on honeymoon. That seems more like a vacation. Any ideas of places we could go during Thanksgiving or Winter Break? Our budget would be about $3000.

I think for the most part we can get most of the planning done before he starts school. I know its not a wedding but I completely planned our entire vacation this past year. I think he gave input maybe 10% of the time lol. He loved our vacation so he said he is totally ok with me planning most of the wedding. My family, friends, and his family are also willing to help me so I won't lose my mind lol.

For your honeymoon, you could go anywhere in the south in the winter! There are lots of places in the US that offer more than just a beach, but are still warm. You could do the Grand Canyon, southern California, anywhere in Texas, or the Florida Keys.

I think you can take your honeymoon any time that works well for you and your FH. FH and I didn't want to take a big trip right after the wedding. We wanted to decompress and enjoy the first few weeks together. Also, delaying our honeymoon a month gives us something else to look forward to. However you want to do it will be the right thing :-)

You can take your honeymoon whenever you want to. I work in higher ed and will also be starting grad school next semester, when I get married. We chose our wedding date so it would not interfere with the semester or finals. We plan to take our honeymoon during winter break after our May wedding, so it will be 8 months after our wedding. I don't mind waiting that long because we want to travel in January anyway. I know next semester will be crazy with school, the wedding, and my full time job. Oh, and I'm also running a marathon 3 weeks before the wedding. That training will take a lot of time. I know I can do this because I like to be busy, and I push myself to get everything done when I have a lot on my plate. My FH, on the other hand, can not handle intense multi-tasking and overscheduling, so he would not be able to be so busy in the months leading up to our wedding. I think you need to know yourself (and him) and play to each other's strengths.

I work full time and do grad school part-time. We'll be getting married about 2 months after I finish school! So most of the planning is happening while I'm a full-time employee and student. FH is pretty helpful, but he just has no idea about a lot of this wedding stuff so the majority of it falls on me.

Time management is key. For example, I plan on figuring out invitations over Christmas break so I'm ready to send them out on time. Also, I accepted that I'm not going to be able to spend a lot of time on DIY things (honestly, I'm not sure I would even I had time).

As others have said, it's doable! But it can be tough.

ETA: I'll be done by the time we have our honeymoon, so no advice to add there

Great idea. He is not very good at intense multi-tasking. Perhaps I need to contact my photographer and venue to see what their change of date policy is. Thanks for all the helpful tips guys!