Wedding help

So you would like to plan a vow renewal? If you're already married you won't be able to get married again.

First thing to plan is budget. That will determine everything else that follows.

The first step is to call this event what it is so that there is no misrepresentation. The day you had your courthouse ceremony was, by definition, your wedding day. You'd invite guests to a "celebration of marriage" if it's within a reasonable time period, or perhaps an anniversary party if it's a year or more later. Some couples reenact a wedding ceremony, but there are also people who are the opinion that vows don't expire after a year or two or ever for that matter.

After that, the sky is the limit. Like any party host, you'd make a guest list first, then plan a reception according to your budget and preferences.

I think the other two commenters are getting a bit wrapped up in semantics and you could totally just call the gathering with family and/or friends "your wedding".

I do agree you want to decide on a budget. Just start making a list of things you want. Do you want a ceremony? A dress? Who do you want to invite? How much food and what kind? If you're keeping things small, you could just do appetizers and some drinks.

The number of people you want to involve plays a big part in how simple or complex it can get. If it's just a couple dozen people who live close, you could do a potluck in a nearby park. If it's more than 50, and people are traveling, then you probably want a caterer.

Also, Youtube research:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AoJnN1c0OG4

Agree with Jacks and CM to be explicitly clear that this is a celebration of marriage or a vow renewal. It’s a conscious choice to marry in a courthouse or privately instead of in the company of loved ones. For that reason, it’s disrespectful to those who consciously chose to elope without a full blown celebration immediately following by saying that those people didn’t have “real” wedding because it doesn’t match your definition of one, that is not the standard definition or that follows good etiquette (the art of intentionally navigating social interactions between humans to avoid awkward and uncomfortable situations. Just because something became popular during Covid doesn’t make it polite in practice.