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Master October 2020

Wedding Guests, You Need to Calm Down

Mandi, on July 17, 2019 at 5:11 PM Posted in Community Conversations 0 21

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Don't get me wrong. I'm excited about our wedding in 8.5 months. I am. And I'm excited that other people are excited. But I'm kinda sick of answering questions about the wedding.
What color is your dress?
Can I see it?
What are your colors?
Where is it?
What will it look like?
Just constant questions about details.
And the endless "Can I help you with anything?"

I get that both my fiance and I were both on "Team Forever Alone" until we met. But dang.

Plus, I want you to show up and be surprised.

I have a Facebook friend who has been engaged 4 times in the last 3 years and plans EVERYTHING out DETAIL by DETAIL on facebook. I don't want to attend any of those weddings because I feel like I already know everything.

I guess I get that I'm odd and nobody has any idea what to expect. But respect the weird. Its gonna be a good time.

I'm excited. I'm excited that you're excited. But chill.

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Allie · on July 17, 2019 at 5:13 PM
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Lol. I don't have this problem, so I can't relate, but I'd probably be giving some really obnoxious answers if people kept bugging me like that. What does your dress look like? Oh it's purple and cheetah print and I'm thinking about even wearing cat ears with it.
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Kelly · on July 17, 2019 at 5:14 PM
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Those are generic questions, even my coworkers ask them.
Overall you can just say "I want it to be a surprise for my guests!" And move on. You don't need to tell anyone anything
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Mandi · on July 17, 2019 at 5:14 PM
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To be fair... this is probably an answer people expect.
I told a girl it was super simple and she was kinda sad it wasnt purple. Lol.
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Formerbride · on July 17, 2019 at 5:14 PM
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Ugh truth. I recently saw a post, "went to our food tasting" with pictures of the food!?!? Idk some people are too much. It gets slightly better after the wedding. However, now I have people telling me they want to see pictures... yeah me too 😒. I already decided that when I finally do get them, I'm going to hoard them until I want to share them with family lol. I feel like I had no privacy for a year.
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Allie · on July 17, 2019 at 5:17 PM
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Lol I would LOVE a purple dress. My guests are expecting way too much from me and I'm just thinking, yall will be lucky if I show up lol. I want to be married to FH but dang I'm tired of wedding this wedding that.
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Monique · on July 17, 2019 at 5:18 PM
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This 😂😂😂
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Mandi · on July 17, 2019 at 5:22 PM
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Ha! I've been releasing our engagement photos like we're royals. 1 when we got them, 1 on our anniversary, 1 on our save the date, 1 on our address labels, 2 not yet seen on on our wedding website. My fiance didnt forward them to his mom, so she's pumped everytime I release one. Lol.
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Mandi · on July 17, 2019 at 5:23 PM
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👏👏👏 yes!!!
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Magen · on July 17, 2019 at 5:24 PM
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I have the complete opposite problem. We are both over 30 and had been together 5 years when we got engaged and I feel as as though the only person excited besides us is my mom. My future MIL even thought we were eloping and was physically disappointed to know she wouldn't get a vacation out of it.

I guess the grass is always greener.
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Nita · on July 17, 2019 at 5:25 PM
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This bugs me so much too! Although I’m pretty sure it bugs me because it’s literally ALL anyone will talk to me about since we got engaged last summer but NOONE asks my FH these questions. Sometimes I just want to be like “it’s FH’s wedding too! Go ask him these questions. In the past year I’ve completed a masters program, started a new job, and got promoted. Ask me about some of that instead”
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Mandi · on July 17, 2019 at 5:32 PM
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Oh no. I was a little worried that no one would care since we are going to be 32, and we can't have kids. But it seems like people care too much.

It must be that green grass situation.
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Mandi · on July 17, 2019 at 5:33 PM
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I'm proud of you for your masters, job and promotion! Get it!
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Nita · on July 17, 2019 at 5:36 PM
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Thank you!! It’s been a whirlwind of a year! Which is probably why I get so frustrated when people will only acknowledge one of the many things that have happened.
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Laura · on July 17, 2019 at 5:38 PM
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I understand. I was engaged for almost a year and a half before most of my Facebook friends even knew I was in a relationship. I too saw those posts from contacts where they were constantly getting engaged to one person, breaking up then getting engaged to someone else a few months later! I do wish I would get some of those "can I help" people though...i'm doing it all alone and not by choice!
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Ceelie · on July 17, 2019 at 5:42 PM
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The "what are your colors" question is too relateable lol. "what colors are you doing?" "are you doing fall colors?" "do you need help picking out colors?" Why are yall so worried about the colors? Forget the colors and I will SEE YOU THERE! My lanta
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Cristy · on July 17, 2019 at 6:11 PM
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I'm sorry, but LMAO!!! Omg Mandi you crack me up!!
I'm sorry you're being bombarded by the ever curious. I have to say that I have not had this problem. That is kind of sad, I think, but I'll live. I can't wait to see your ProBAM, because I think it's going to be super unique--judging from your posts/comments here on WW! Just keep flicking them off, your day will come soon enough. And I'll be right behind you!
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Courtney · on July 17, 2019 at 9:08 PM
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Some people know some things. My parents and my bridesmaids know just about everything about the wedding. Whenever other friends ask I give them kinda vague answers or "I don't want to spoil the surprise".
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Mandi · on July 18, 2019 at 1:39 AM
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Ha! Thanks! You're so sweet!
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Candice · on July 18, 2019 at 9:38 AM
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I feel this in my soul. Literally an hour after my engagement posts I've been getting constant questions and unsolicited "help" from family and friends. It's excruciating. I get it. People are excited but we set the date for over two years from the engagement. I don't know what kind of cake I want right now. I don't have card box preferences. Cool it. I told a few people that I'm on a wedding planning break just so they'd stop asking me about it.
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Candice · on July 18, 2019 at 9:43 AM
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So many color questions. We picked different colors originally and then I had a freak out and changed them because people kept asking questions about how the original colors would look. Why does it matter??? Also my family is crazy and tends to have everyone that would be in family pictures wear the wedding colors and my mom didn't like my original color when she went dress shopping two years in advanced.
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