Wedding guests RSVPd yes but didn't show

Uh are you trolling? This is a terrible idea. There are always people who don't show up to weddings. There's nothing you can do about it. And this text you're considering sending is SO RUDE.

If you were really sick and came to my wedding to get me or my other guests sick I would be more annoyed. You don't know if she was really sick or faking.

Your wedding date on your profile is September 30th 2014

Your wedding hasn't happened yet according to you, and the flu is highly contagious. Your text is shitty and rude.

Chill my wedding happened. It's just a profile glitch. Damn I was just looking for feedback, not bashing.

Stop it. Do not send that. Ridiculous.

Edit: You got feedback. Sorry sweetie, but this is the internet. We can tell you point blank you are being terrible.

The consensus of the feedback is that you're a jerk.

Um, no.

Lol so you would prefer that she shows up, is miserable, and gets other people sick? Oh okay.

I hope you don't send that text. For all you know she was really sick. Why would anyone want to come to a wedding with the flu - she would feel like crap the entire night and possibly pass on her germs.

Wow... I think some of these comments are a little harsh.. BUT, I definitely wouldn't send that. Would I be frustrated, absolutely. However it's not your place to judge if she is actually sick or not. And if she legitimately does have the flu, there's no way I would want her at my wedding.

If you are on the boards, you have probably seen the posts by other brides that have X amount of people didn't show. It happens.

It sucks she bailed, it sucks she texted you, and now you get to decide how much of a case you're making out of it. Is your friendship worth that text you want to send back?

Also, FWIW, I get beside-myself-angry when people come around me who are sick. The flu is not something to be trifled with. If you think she's lying, that is a separate issue, but if you take it at face value, I'm glad she stayed home.

I am so tired of people trying to be all 'i can push through this' yeah thanks, my immune system appreciates you being a douchebag.

Does it suck when people no-show to your wedding? Yes.

Does it suck even more when it is one of your good friends who no-show to your wedding? Yes.

Should your friend get credit for telling you ahead of time? Yes. (at least you knew not to expect her)

Should you send a really harsh message back? No.

You should be THANKFUL that she did not attend your wedding if she were actually sick. She would probably look and feel horrible and as a result, would probably make your guests feel very uncomfortable. Be GRATEFUL she no-showed.

What if she came and then you got the flu and your honeymoon sucked?

Are you a troll?

Thank you megan and enya for giving me responses. I don't like people being sick around me either...for this particular person, who is known to fake sicknesses though, it bothered me. I am not going to say anything to her. I also didn't know it's typical that statistically speaking a certain number of guests are no-show. Sometimes when something bothers me, I write out what I want to say but I don't send it or say it. It's a way for me to get my feelings out without stewing on them for too long. I guess I was doing that, but doing it here. Thank you both for treating me like a real human behind a screen. Best wishes to you both.

It's understandable that you're frustrated, but if you are not willing to believe that she is truly sick, then it doesn't sound like much of a friendship...

Sounds like you two have bigger issues between you than just a missed wedding.

I don't understand your reasoning about wishing you had known so you could have invited other guests. She was sick. She wasn't going to know she was sick until at most, what, a day or two before? Were you planning on inviting someone the day before your wedding?? That just doesn't make sense.

Yeah, it sucks she didn't show. But things come up, people have lives. I just had to miss my good friend's wedding because my aunt passed away and I went out of town for her funeral. Of course I told my friend as soon as I could, but I'm such my friend still had to pay for my plate. Stuff happens.

I agree with Marina. It sounds like there are bigger issues here.

In the highly unlikely case that this is a serious post, here is my answer:

You can't expect someone to come to your wedding when they are sick. Maybe she was puking and having diarrhea every three minutes. Would you have wanted her there? We had several no-shows and it was extremely disappointing but what can we do about it? It makes me a little annoyed at them but I'm hoping I'll get over it soon.

It sounds like the real problem is that you think she faked sick so she didn't have to come. I have a friend who is THE biggest hypochondriac in the world. Seriously. She is in the hospital literally once a month for a stomach flu, infected bug bite, etc. When she got a colonoscopy she claimed it hurt so bad she waddled for 2 weeks. Really??? But she is my friend. So when she texts me, "I'm sorry I can't meet you for blah blah I'm not feeling well" What do I say back? "I hope you feel better! No problem!" If you REALLY think she skipped out on your wedding and wasn't really sick well...you can't prove it so you either call her out on it and probably ruin your friendship or you get over it and accept that that's how your friend is.

Almost every wedding or event has at least one no show, some much more. Illness and emergencies DO happen. You are not being a good friend by assuming the worst of her, that she was lying. I would not send that text. If the other people you wanted to invite were people you cared about more, and wanted them there more than these people, then you should have included them in the first place.

Good heavens. Have you ever had the flu? When I did, I could hardly get out of bed, let alone go to a wedding! The fact that you even considered sending her that text is disgusting.