Wedding guests not showing up

I think this is actually going to happen to me. Most of our 160+ guest list is out of town family, many of them we already say "There's a 85% chance they aren't coming but we invite them for the sentiment..." It'll be a quick turn around with vendors and stuff to go from preparing for 160 to 100 or less coming, but FH and I will be just fine with a small wedding

I had 12 no-shows of over 100 guests, all of whom called/texted at some point. There was a huge snowstorm on my wedding day and no one was local, so I understood.

There used to be a bride on here who had something like 40 no-shows. Not sure how many people came though. There was another who had 20-something no-shows.

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There was a bride on here about a year or a year and a half ago who posted that she was devastated because only 9 people showed up. We all consoled her, but it was my fear and I'm sure the fear of many brides before their weddings.

One of my dreams was that they all said that they were coming and only 10 came...

My FSIL had about 12 people that didn't come I believe. I had a wedding nightmare the other night that we moved our wedding up a year and the florist called to tell me they forgot to get the peonies and FH forgot to get his tux. He woke me up and said I was tossing and turning and saying "No No No" LOL!

If only 9 people (I'm assuming outside of bridal party and immediate family) show up to my wedding, we're having the party of a life time, I'm taking all left-over booze and food home, and living the high life for a week lol

Definitely a fear of mine but my FH keeps assuring me that people will show up

I am opposite. My fear is that more people will show up than RSVP'd! I had a nightmare about that the other day.

Elizabeth, no, the 9 included everyone. And I believe 3 of them were children of the other 6 who actually came. I don't think there was a bridal party. I think she invited 50 people and 35 or 40 RSVP'd that they'd be there. Only 9 showed up on day of and like I said, 3 were kids.

I cannot imagine planning a whole wedding for only 9 guests to show up

I will be satisfied if 100 guests come. I havent even sent out invites yet so im really worried for nothing but I cant help it.

I have read that you can expect a handful of ppl to bail at the last minute or simply not show up but luckily that didn't happen to us. All 96 ppl who RSVPed showed up. Yay! We invited 124 I believe. We wanted somewhere around 90-110, so it was perfect with 96.

20 people total for a small wedding, god help me if people don't show up. I have replacements in mind, but I just know RSVPs will all be last minute...

Yvette, you never replace a guest. This is called b-listing and is considered extremely rude.

Ew Yvette, really?

We've got a guest list of 130, but between being an out of town wedding (those furthest out will be making a six hour drive one way), a Sunday afternoon AND the weekend before Halloween, I'm interested to see just how many people make it.

My cousin had 36 no shows but, their issue was they invited people who should have never been invited. Plus their wedding was on a Friday and hour away at 6:00 PM.

Remember, you'll be married at the end of the day no matter what. I too want all my people there with me, not saying your feelings are invalid.

My family has taken to telling me they're excited to attend my wedding and then telling other family members that they don't actually plan to attend. This sparked a string of nightmares for me where everyone rsvps and no one but bridal party and FH and his parents show up... We have about 70 guests not including wp so that's terrifying. We haven't even sent invites yet but it's a constant worry for me.

I try to ignore the fear as best I can. I Just tell myself that those who really care for me will be there, no matter how many invited guests actually show.

I just got married this past Thursday!! (yes a Thursday) we invited 120 guests. 103 RSVP'd and we ended up having 2 no shows and 4 extra lol. My ceremony got moved inside so I wasn't able to see everyone sit down from a balcony. I remember asking my coordinator if she was sure everyone was there and she was like yeah a lot of people are here! I think we all have that fear but honestly - everyone who cares about you will be there! Unless something out of their control happens - they will be there

Jillian, you never know. My wedding was also out of town and many guests flew in. The ones who drove had to drive 3 hours or more. We had a huge snowstorm AND it was the weekend before Christmas. I still only had 12 people miss it, all due to weather (one due to his car swerving in the weather).