Our wedding is less than 3 months away, invites are ordered and I did the pre-addressing through Minted, so I've already submitted all of that.
However, a few months ago one of my aunts mentioned that my dad's cousin and his wife are getting a divorce, and doesn't sound like an amicable one. At that point I had already sent a save the date addressed to the couple. Originally I was going to reach out to my aunts prior to addressing formal invitations and just confirm the latest on this, as I didn't want to hurt my dad's cousin by addressing the formal invite to him and his wife (although I suppose seeing just his name on the invite could be a painful reminder as well). I asked my dad as well, and he said "Has HE told you he's getting divorced? If not, how would you even know? Just address it to both of them." I thought that was a good point, as addressing the invite only to the cousin and not his wife could serve as confirmation that the family has been gossiping about this. I even checked Facebook and though I'm not "friends" with him, I can see that his wife is still in his profile picture, so it doesn't seem like any sweeping announcements have been made, at least not through social media. Then again, how else does word of a divorce spread - I'm not sure most divorcing couples ever really make a formal announcement about it. So, maybe the cousin was hoping the grapevine would take care of it, and then I'm back to feeling bad about pretending to have not received the message!
Two of my aunts were over last night and I told them I'd just gone ahead and addressed the invite to both, and explained my reasoning. They both grimaced and said "well they're definitely getting divorced, she's moving out," etc. - and it has me second guessing myself.
I still think I probably did the right thing and should go ahead and send the invite addressed to both of them as though I don't know anything about the possible impending divorce - but wanted to get some other perspectives. Thoughts?