Wedding Guest Situation

When I say children can't be there, I mean we will be at a bar, riding in party bus with alcohol.

It's your wedding and your decision. You made it clear and she still was pushy. Honestly, probably for the best that she won't be coming anymore.

This friend sounds so childish and petty. Are they good friends with each other? I think FH should have a face-to-face conversation with her ASAP and let her know that her behavior was not okay

View Quoted Comment They are good friends and have known each other for >10 years. And she's always so sweet to me in person. But true colors are coming out. He's pretty pissed about it and hates drama. He said this is out of character for her. I have also asked him to talk to her and her husband. We will see what happens. It just has put a bad taste in my mouth.

I would be upset too. This isn’t about her and she should come without her child or don’t come.

View Quoted Comment Yeah, I agree. If we were having a beach wedding or a wedding in Dallas or my hometown, kids would of course be invited. No one else has asked if their kids could come either.

“As we’ve said many times, our wedding events are adult-only. We’re but understand if that doesn’t work for you and you no longer want to attend.”


Period. Stop trying to coddle her. Ugh, I’m annoyed for you! 😤

Oops. “We’re sad but understand...”

View Quoted Comment If it were my friend I would've told them straight up no kids allowed. But my friends aren't going to ask dumb questions. Also too, the more I think about it, I may have a conversation with her myself. Not going to be rude but just put her actions into perspective. I am a very easy going person, but shes crossed me. I already told FH I'm done with her. Unfortunately that's just my personality. If you cross me, I cross you off my list. My heart's been racing all night. I just can't stop thinking about it.

View Quoted Comment The fact that she continues to ask and is now pushing for her kid to be invited to some of your wedding events too is unacceptable and rude. And it would be unfair to your other guests if you cave (which I don’t think you will but what if she brings her daughter and asks in front if you, “Well are you really going to make her leave?” or something just as inconsiderate.). At this point, it would be far kinder to let your fiancé tell her “We’re sorry to hear that you won’t be there but we understand” rather than let her drag this out and potentially get ugly.


Is it too late for a glass of 🍷???

Yessssss. I have a cousin who asked about children the moment she received our invitation. I was a apologetic but told her firmly that if we allowed her child we would have to allow everyone else’s children and that would increase our guest list by at least 30 people. She said okay and told me she’d come as long as she could find childcare. I ran into her sister a couple of months later, when she asked who was watching my son for the wedding, I told her he would be in the wedding and staying for the reception. Hours later I received a text from my cousin who tried to sell me on the idea of bringing her son as company for mine. I told her I appreciated the offer but I’d have to decline as I had already told several friends and family members they could not bring children. She was obviously agitated but told me she’d let me know about the sitter.
Two weeks before my wedding, when all the finalized guests counts were due she still hadn’t responded. I text her to confirm she would not be attending. She responded by saying she wouldn’t miss it. I took down her meal selection and moved her to the list of confirmed guests. I found out a week before the wedding that she had once again complained to my mom about our no children policy. Done with the nonsense, I text her again to let her know There would be no hard feelings if she couldn’t find a sitter but it would be cool to know either way so we didn’t pay for a meal no one would eat. She assured me she had a sitter and she would be in attendance.
Want to guess who didn’t call, text, or show up to my wedding? She still hasn’t reached out to even offer an apology or excuse but I really wish I had just left her off my rsvp list.

So this person has asked to bring her kid multiple times? I mean why would someone want to bring a kid to Vegas for a wedding. It pretty obvious that its not a kid friendly event. I think you have been nice enough to allow an exception. Maybe they can't find a baby sitter. I don't see why she would be so insistent on bringing her kid knowing the things you all have planned? Hopefully your husband can get to the real issue. Is she looking for an out? Some people just love to create their own drama and problems.

We are getting married in a Casino that is also a Resort.
I have clearly stated- for over a year, will be 2 when wedding finally happens!- NO CHILDREN UNDER 18!
I feel they’ve had 1.5-2 YEARS to figure out a baby sitter, and they should be loving that we are doing a “NO kids” so they could have a date weekend!
Our wedding is a “destination wedding”, in that we live in Virginia and it is in Upstate New York. 1/2 of his family and all but my dad live in Upstate NY. Then my dad/stepmom, and ironically his mom/stepdad, live in Florida. Our friend group- well his more- is Maryland( where he is an attorney) and Virginia. Mine is kinda scattered because of Facebook and I model so....
I see NOTHING wrong with sticking to your guns. This is YOUR day, NOT hers and if she can’t handle that good riddance. I have 2 kids at my wedding, the flower fairy and ring security. That is it. And anyone who doesn’t like it can go get F’d!!

View Quoted Comment Its funny you said that. He said the same thing. It seems like she's creating drama for an out. I said if that's the case then his response back to her should either simply be okay or we are sorry you can't make it, thanks for letting us know. End of story.

View Quoted Comment Wow, weddings bring out some characters for sure.

View Quoted Comment That’s what I’m saying!

Wow she sounds annoying. At this point I would just say you’re sorry she can’t make it and leave I at that. And no, her daughter is not invited. It is an adult only party. And if I were a parent, I wouldn’t want to take my child to a Vegas, adult only wedding. That sounds horrible.

“We would really love for you to attend and would hate for you to miss this amazing time. However, this is an adult only celebration and we understand if you can’t make it.”


Unfortunately, people WILL be offended if their kids can’t come. However, y’all made it clear that that’s what y’all don’t want and have to accept that not all people will attend. It only becomes stressful if you entertain it.

It's your wedding not hers if she's going to make it that difficult then she needs to get off her high horse.

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You want to know why nobody else has asked if their kids can come? Because Las Vegas is NOT for kids!!!

I mean, sure, you always see families there, for the very few kid activities that do exist in Vegas. But this is not the same thing at all. This is a destination wedding, with adults, in an adult city, doing adult activities. She needs to get over herself.

Good that your FH is dealing with her, and it looks like she won't be attending. You dodged a bullet there.