Wedding Guest List

No, it’s not cool to uninvite people from your wedding.

The STD cards basically are to let people know they should plan to save the date of your wedding because they are being invited. If you no longer have the finances to invite everyone, the polite thing to do would be to 1) postpone until you can afford it or 2) cancel it and elope

Oh man that is a tough one, It would seem a little rude in my opinion being that you already sent out the save the dates. Maybe what you can do before you make that decision is reach out to all of those people and tell them that you need a final head count before the wedding so you know how much food to order, drinks..etc. Then once you hear back, go from there.

It's typically against etiquette since everyone who got a save the date is going to expect an invite. I'd try to cut other areas, like flowers or catering or bar.

No, that's not "cool." Find other places to cut your budget that don't affect guest experience; flowers, decor, attire.

No, unfortunately
I agree with the others - try to find different ways to save money because unfortunately sending the save the dates is sort of like a prelude to an invite

What about minimizing the food cost or taking away another expensive element to your wedding? There are lots of ways to cut costs if you are a savvy shopper!

It'd depend on the situation in my opinion. If something out of your control happened (a death, fire, sudden job loss) then I think uninviting some people you're not close to is understandable and doesn't really need a follow up unless directly asked. It's probably polite to call and explain the situation.
If your problem is something you did (went over budget, bought a car or house outside your budget, credit card spending) then it's rude and on you to figure it out.

I'm probably going to be the minority in this topic, but a STD is not an invite. Circumstances change between sending those out and actual invites. If you know you are going to have to trim your guest list down than maybe you can have a conversation with the people who received a STD who will not be receiving an invite. Etiquette is one thing, but your budget and what you can afford is more important.

I think this depends on how much you need to cut back financially. If possible, I'd do as others have suggested and try to eliminate expenses that don't impact guest count, like attire, honeymoon, florals, decor, etc. If it's a significant financial set back for you, then I think I'd notify all guests, that unfortunately, due to circumstances beyond your control, you've had to change your plans to a very small, intimate wedding. If you do this though, personally, I'd cut it back to just immediate family. I would be pretty hurt to realize that I'd been "cut," but there were still a lot of people who were still invited. I think that's much harder to manage the reactions/potential hurt. (I would completely understand needing to substantially change your plans, but "hey, we need to cut 10 less important people, and that's YOU" would be pretty hurtful.) I'm sorry you're going through this. Good luck!

No you cannot do this. Try to find other ways to save money. Like skipping flowers and decor, and/or cancel some vendors (you might lose your deposit but you won't have to pay the rest in full which would save money.

My friend group once got save the dates for a friend's wedding 5 hours away. We started talking about our transportation and looking for hotels... and we never got invitations. She decided she wanted to have a much smaller wedding.

If you HAVE to do it, I guess you HAVE to. But it is considered super rude.

Honestly if they love you then they will understand. Before you panic you should send out the invitations ASAP like this week so that you can get some responses back. Every invite you send won't come back as a YES so you may not even have to make such a hard decision. Now as I think.....that might not work because what if they all send a yes I stand by my first statement "if they love you, they'll understand" because I know your probably not about to cancel the whole wedding. That's tough. Maybe take a closer look and cut out children, co-workers who you don't hang out with outside of work, people your parents may have wanted to come or even plus 1's. Should probably start with children and plus 1's. This is a tough one...Good luck doll!

No! Once you send a STD you are expected to send an invitation. The whole point of STD’s is so people can “save the date” & begin making travel arrangements, child care arrangements, etc. What if one of these guests you were planning to essentially uninvite had already booked a hotel room or a flight? You need to find other ways to cut costs at your wedding and invite everyone who received a STD.