Wedding guest during covid

It's A Personal Choice Whether To Go Or Not. if You Aren't Comfortable Going, The Couple Should Be Understanding Due To The Circumstances. Same For Others Who Have A Wedding, They Should Expect Not All Guests Will Be Comfortable Traveling Or Being In Groups Yet.

My FH and I are going through with our wedding planned for September. I have outlined what I feel the guests need to know coming in to our reception/ ceremony venue. We do have a few restrictions but they are minor in my opinion. I am expecting more declines to be honest, I completely understand why people would decline but this is their decision just as it is mine (plus the venues) to continue on with having the wedding this year.

There are so many reasons why people are choosing to continue with their wedding plans despite Covid. As a guest, you always have the right to decline an invitation for any reason. If you don't feel comfortable going/traveling, then don't. I personally would not be offended if people didn't want to travel for my wedding period (travel is expensive, requires time off work, etc and just is a lot to ask of people), and now with Covid in place its even more understandable.

It's possible that people declining at this point might even be a relief to the couple, especially if people are traveling. We postponed our wedding a full year, but before making that decision I strongly considered if we would uninvite people who had to fly to our wedding or from high-incidence areas, just because we didn't want to put our other guests (vulnerable, VIP ones) at risk. It felt really awful to consider making those judgements, and I really didn't want to tell people I loved they couldn't come because they were too risky. So you deciding on your own not to go might actually save the couple some heartache.

You can always send a nice card/gift when you decline, or make an offer to celebrate with the couple in the future. The couple will understand, and if they don't, that says more about them than it does about you.

I think they would absolutely understand if you didn't want to come or couldn't come. they probably are aware already anyway that not everyone is going to want to go or be comfortable going

I think they would understand either way, but only you can decide. We personally wouldn't go because my partner can't be out of work for that long if we were to get sick (hourly pay means 2 weeks off unplanned isn't an option).

Thank You for posting this, because I may be in a similar situation!! One of my best friends is getting married in the Northeast in November, and while that is 5 months away and a lot can change, if we are in a similar situation that we are in now, we would not be comfortable getting on a plane and traveling to a wedding (would also need a rental car, etc). I am really worried about offending my friend (who thinks this isn't something that severe for people under 40), but my husband has already been furloughed for a month, there are layoffs coming at our companies, and as Elizabeth says above, we just cant afford to go another 2-3 weeks without pay now in the worse case we got sick or had to quarantine.

I don't blame people for going on with their plans, but they should be understanding when guests cant attend for health concerns or work related concerns (most sound like they are).

Also, 2 weddings for the same couple in all this? Wow.