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Karen
Devoted July 2020

Wedding gown shopping fail

Karen, on September 3, 2019 at 1:23 PM Posted in Wedding Attire 0 17
Went wedding dress shopping with both my parents (they're the ones paying), my MOH and a very close friend. Went the sales person asked about budget I looked at my parents, my friend jumped and said 3k I got very upset because it was not her place to say she's not paying for it. My dad ended up saying 5k. The whole time I'm trying on dresses I felt like I had to pick whatever my friends where saying, or they thought I wanted. Long story short, found a dress that i loved and that i wanted to take and both of them kept saying that it was too expensive, that maybe I shouldn't do the customizations (which was what made made the dress MY dress). My mom was super upset that both of my friends kept telling my dad that it was too expensive and this and that. I ended up not getting the dress, but I feel sabotaged, my friends were there for support and give out their opinion on the dress and how it looks on me not to worry about how much the dress was, which eventually ruined everything for me.

I have an appt at another place this Friday, I had already invited my MOH to come along and I feel rude uninviting her. My dad won't be going to this appt because he works but my mom refuses to come to the appt if my MOH is there.

17 Comments

Latest activity by Karen, on September 5, 2019 at 9:37 PM
  • Fmv
    Super October 2020
    Fmv ·
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    So sorry this happened! I think you should find anothet day and just go with your mom. Its simpilar that way and less opinions. You and your mom can have a moment and enjoy this time.
    Ultimately this is your wedding, your dress...you will be the one wearing it and its yours-nobody elses
    If your dad is really offering 5k, then get what you want and forget what your friends said
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  • Yam
    VIP September 2019
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    Your friends were super rude so leave them behind when you go shopping.
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  • Kelly
    Super October 2019
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    Your friends were being super rude. I would just tell her that the dress appt. is being rescheduled for a tbd date & then don’t include her.
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  • VIP November 2021
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    I’m SO sorry. That isn’t right at all. I would politely say - I want to go alone this time.. if I find something or want to have your opinion I’ll have us all go back together another time
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  • Erin
    Expert November 2019
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    Wow, I’m sorry you had such an awful experience. Your friends were being rude. It’s not their place to tell you what dress you should pick out and they had no business trying to tell you and your dad that the dress you loved was too expensive! If your dad is footing the bill, it’s his place to make that call, not theirs. Maybe you can tell your friend that you would like to make this next dress shopping day a mother daughter day?
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  • Cyndy
    Master May 2019
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    Wow that’s really rude of them. I would call and tell them that you are going with your mom to the next appt because it was too stressful for you. Enjoy the day with your mom and don’t feel bad for not taking them. This is why I went ALONE to pick out my dress and I didn’t show anyone until the wedding day. Get what makes you happy!!! Good luck Friday!!
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  • Sara
    Expert October 2020
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    So its ok for your friend (MOH) to be rude, but its not ok for you to have a nice day and experience with your mom??? I'd say un-invite her. Just say your decided to go dress shopping with you mom and dad

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  • Erin
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    I agree with PPs, reschedule the appointment and don’t invite the friends. It’s not their place to say what is and is not too expensive if they’re not paying for it. and if they go to the next appointment it’ll be another day of the same problems that you had before. Dress shopping should be fun and exciting, not stressful, disappointing, and aggravating. Make it a mom & daughter day, or reschedule to a day your dad can go too and make it a family day.
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  • Kiley
    Expert November 2019
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    Oh my!! I would definitely go without your friends. I don't think the price is ANY of their business! I would make it a day with you and your mom and send them a picture when you say yes to the dress!

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  • Jennifer
    VIP October 2021
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    I would tell her flat out. I fired my MOH. Soooooo

    if you want be like “My dad and mom
    and I really want to spend this next bridal appointment with it just being us. Sorry to cancel on ya”
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  • Emily
    Dedicated October 2021
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    This is why I went alone to pick out my dress. I'm so sorry they were so rude to you and your parents. I would honestly tell MOH that you are upset with how the last appointment went and only want to go with your mom to this appointment.

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  • Cher Horowitz
    Master December 2019
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    Your friends' behavior was so not okay! Could you possibly schedule another appointment but only let your parents know? This way you can probably find a dress you truly love Smiley smile

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  • Aleaj
    Expert October 2019
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    Girl you need new friends, they are jealous!!! They should be happy for, they’re not paying and it’s not their place to say anything. My mom would’ve told them to shut up! Lol But you should talk to your MOH and let her know how she made you feel, and to let you enjoy your moment and keep her comments to herself.
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  • Aleaj
    Expert October 2019
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    Exactly...send a pic saying you like my 5k dress?! Lol
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  • Devin
    Super October 2019
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    We knew that’s that how my MOH would be to so I told her my mom wanted it to be just her & myself and we went just the two of us and had a great time together.
    Tell her that and just you and your mom go.
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  • User2574599655703
    Dedicated June 2021
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    Don’t bring anyone. I did that and it was so much more relaxing and enjoyable. You can bring them for the accessories appointment.
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  • Karen
    Devoted July 2020
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    Tomorrow's the day! Im super excited hoping everything will be so much better.
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