My fiancée and I have lived together for over 4 years now. We literally don’t need anything else in our house, I’m not even sure we could fit anything else into our house lol. I’m at the point that I need to create a wedding registry, but what would be MOST beneficial to my FH and I would be donations toward wedding costs. I know it’s a sensitive subject and it can easily come off as rude, but I don’t want anyone wasting their money on stuff we truly don’t NEED or have room for. Any suggestions on how to handle this situation? 😊
Yes, if you don't register, then people will gift cash/checks. However, be mindful of this if you are having a bridal/wedding shower. If you are, then you should register for a few items, as this is a gift-giving event, and not appropriate for cash requests. You could probably use an upgrade on your bedding, towels, window treatments, etc. Those are things you can register for without having to cram more stuff into your house. You just replace the old with the new.
But if you won't be having a shower, there is no need to register.
We had a small registry for some upgrades of stuff or nice to have items for people to buy gifts if they preferred but we didnt really advertise it in any way. We still walked away with thousands of dollars in monetary gifts.
Your wedding should be paid before it occurs, so I’m not sure how people would “donate” to your wedding fund. If you just mean that you want to recoup some of the wedding costs, don’t register and people will automatically gift cash or check.
We registered at two stores, but honestly we only got a handful of things from the registry and got a ton of cash and gift cards. I think that’s what people prefer to do anyway because they don’t have to shop lol
Definitely do not phrase it to your guest as “donations for the wedding.” But if you don’t register anywhere then you will get cards with gift cards, cash, checks.. you should register for upgrades items towels, bedding, etc if you have any form of shower.
We registered at two stores for upgrades to stuff we had and then created a cash fund for our honeymoon. I think I only have like 59 items on my registry and I have invited over 175 guest. I just know that I have traditional family members who will want to buy gifts so I would rather have options of things I need versus getting something out of left field.
Just don't register and definitely don't have a bridal shower. People know that cash is a good gift and will give it to you if you don't give them a list of other options (aka, registry). Don't mention gifts or cash anywhere.
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