Wedding gifts....What to do if you think some cards/gifts may be missing......

When did you get married?

We thought it was really strange that hubby's oldest brother didn't give us a gift. We didn't care, it just seemed weird, you know?

Then about a week after our wedding he contacted us because UPS contacted him and said our address didn't exist and they couldn't deliver our gift, which was supposed to show up BEFORE the wedding.

Once they got the correct address it was here within a day.

We also have one item on our registry that was purchased that is totally MIA. No idea who purchased it or if it was a glitch but we don't have it!

If you're truly concerned items may have been taken maybe your parents could reach out, I'm not sure how to do that in a tactful way, though.

If I were you I would have your mom bring up a casual convo, to see if it gets mentioned with these people. I'm seriously considering a card box that I'll be able to lock, I know at least one thief that will be at our wedding, I would be worried too.

We are doing a lock for our cardbox and having people haul presents away to a locked trailer because of this sorta stuff. Angie has a good idea.

Did you have a larger wedding and/or a venue in a public area? We were given a warning that since we're getting married in a Parks and Rec building, it's a public space so we should consider a lockbox for cards and/or putting the gift table in the actual room itself that we're using for ceremony and reception. We're having 75ish people at our wedding so it'll be obvious if someone is a crasher.

Shortly after the reception starts, I am going to have someone take the cards and gifts up to our hotel room to try and prevent this.

Good luck and I hope they are just missing and not stolen.

My wedding was August 16. The wedding reception area was pretty large and there were two separate rooms. You can guess which room the card box was in vs. the room where people spent the most time. For a box we used a bird cage with wide slats so cards could be stuck through the side. My husband wired it shut so it couldn't be opened without great effort, but it had slats all around the side so.... I guess I'll ask my parents to bring it up in conversation but not to push it. I don't have the balls to. My advice to you ladies is WATCH YOUR CARD BOX.

I just thought of something you could do... have ur mom strike up a casual convo with these people, then at sometime have her say something like "I think someone may have taken some of my daughter's cards"... see what they say.

Agreed with Angie, she can play it off casually too.

I agreed i would get your mum to drop a vague comment may be like when they ask about you just to say ... " yeah she is well or thougt she called me the other day concern she tought she is missing some cards"

or thing like that .....

In my FH tradition the person in charge of the cards is the best man everyone gives them to him... so i am getting my mum to hit ppl if she gets ask... or else i told her if she would take them. once one person sees the BM or my MUM us taking them they will follow...

I didn't have that issue but i had the issue of cards falling off of gifts when transported to the car, they were then placed in the card box and now I don't know who gifted the items!!

I agree with angie. Your mom or anyone else can simply start a casual discussion about your wedding with those people and in between he/she can try to know whether they really gave a gift or not.