Maybe I am being over sensitive, but I would appreciate thoughts concerning this topic. A little background first. I am getting married for the second time in a few weeks. My fiance and I are both widows and this will be the second marriage for both of us. We are both in our early 60s and my fiance's mother is still alive and attending the wedding.
My fiance's mom is of a different culture where spanish is their first language spoken. As much as it has been said over and over again, she will still speak spanish in front of me even thought she can speak english. At most family events spanish is usually the language spoken and most times I never know what is being said. This subject has been addressed over and over again and it has gotten to the point where I just give up.
So now my present situation. I have been going out of my way to try to include my future mother in law in our wedding, going even so far as having her hair and makeup done the day of the wedding. My fiance advised yesterday that his mom told him that she is not giving us a wedding gift, but instead she is giving him money for him to use in order to get some cosmetic dental work done, that he had been talking about getting done, but was concerned about the cost of it. So bottom line, I don't get a wedding gift from her -- only he does. On what universe is that acceptable or even considerate?
As you can imaging, I blew my lid. This isn't the first time she has made it a point of excluding me or saying inconsiderate things about me, i.e. she wished he had met a younger woman so he could have children again. I'm at the point now where I'm thinking do I really want to go through with all of this. Why marry into a family that is so inconsiderate of me. I may love him, but I have zero respect for his mother.
Any thoughts or comments would be appreciated. I feel like I'm losing my mind.
