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Lori, on September 4, 2023 at 11:37 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 5

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I have a question how I should feel. I am deeply hurt and feeling disrespected after I was told my daughter in law and son were growing all the flowers for the wedding, which was a beautiful idea. I even gave them seeds to grow to add to them. My husband, son who was best man and ring barer received boutonnieres to wear. I honestly apparently stupidly was expecting a wrist corsage or something thinking they had made me something also. When I didn't receive anything I was fine, but was shocked to see the bride's mother walk in with a huge bouquet . The bride had apparently ordered flowers for her, her mother and matron of honor. The boutonnieres were hand made along with a bouquet for the flower girl. They were all beautiful. I was deeply hurt as I had contributed much of the things needed for the wedding and wedding reception along with beautiful gifts for my son and daughter in law. A beautiful gold bracelet for my daughter in law to wear with her gown. I was deeply hurt. Am I wrong? Should I have thought to purchase my own flowers if I wanted any. They only had our one son and her sister in the wedding party. Am I being overly sensitive?

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Lori · on September 4, 2023 at 11:54 PM
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The photographer also did not photograph my son and I walking in because he was in the back still photographing the bride and her mother, father and sister. We also are paying the bills for much of the wedding and completely hosted the bridal shower along with all the food, favors, literally everything and a gift. I love my daughter in law, she's a beautiful girl. I have been very welcoming to her always. I am not someone who needs anything materialistically. I would have appreciated just a single flower.
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CM · on September 5, 2023 at 12:33 AM
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No one can tell you how to feel. Perhaps it was an oversight or maybe the bride left ordering for his side up to your son. But the bigger picture is your relationship. I’d urge you not to make an issue of this.
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Lori · on September 5, 2023 at 12:38 AM
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Thank You. You're right. It was a beautiful day otherwise.
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Devoted April 2023
Peyton · on September 6, 2023 at 12:21 AM
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I am really sorry this happened. Do you think your son would have any insight? I would feel sad if I were in your shoes, but I would do my very very best to get over it and forgive. You don’t want to let bitter roots start to take hold. It sounds like it was a wonderfully special wedding!
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Lori · on September 7, 2023 at 8:26 AM
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Thank You Peyton, I was truly hurt, but I am ok of course. It was a beautiful day. Whatever the reasoning, oversight, I forgive and will forget. I am thankful for all I got to do/ give and was/am not looking for anything in return, ever. I look forward to many special moments and memories ahead. I would just urge any future brides to not overlook their mother-in-law, they're the ones who have brought your new husband to the point they met you! Many best wishes and God Bless your marriage !
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