Wedding feelings

A. There is no universal feeling that everyone has to get. You are excited to marry your fiance, which is the important part. B. Part of the reason may be because of what you listed here. You are incredibly busy and it's a long way away as of now. You may get more excited closer to the date as it begins to feel more "real."

Honestly that's okay! The most important thing is preparing for your lives together and as long as you are still committed to that, it's totally understandable to be more excited for that than the wedding celebration. I feel the same way about everything.

Maybe have a small wedding with the people that mean closest to you? I'm having a smaller sized wedding as well, but they're all people I'm comfortable with, so even if I'm more excited for my future with my husband than the wedding, the wedding will still be a fun celebration.

Also, take advantage of the check list on wedding wire! You dont need to do everything on it, but it gives good ideas on wedding basics that you need to get done. I wish you all the best!

Ours is a year our too. Im dreading it.

Getting married was something I was never really bothered about. I love my partner and Im really happy we are getting married but I am not looking forward to walking down the aisle and talking in front of a crowd.

We are getting married in Las Vegas (from the UK) and only have around 20 of our closest friends and family coming but Im still not excited at all for that part. Im looking forward to celebrating afterwards with everyone.

I had a long engagement and wasn't that excited about it. I was also a working college student. I graduate in a few weeks and the wedding is in September. I'm getting excited now!

I’m 4 months out and in the same boat! Anxiety and all lol. I love my FH so much, I’m seriously the luckiest person ever. But we’re both way more excited about our honeymoon than the wedding. Don’t get me wrong saying I do’s is our #1 thing, but the reception and all that goes with it we’re both not looking forward to it. Way too much attention, we’re not really dancers, and I hate pictures taken of me. Ugh . I feel like I can’t be natural at all.

I think you feel the way you were meant to feel. And I totally understand the anxiety of being the center of attention. I have been fine with it up until last night I was like eek! Lol. As the time gets closer it becomes more real abs trust me you will go through more emotions

I feel the exact same way and I don’t think there’s anything wrong with it.

You may find that 1 day it’ll hit you and you’ll find that excitement! It took me awhile to get exited about anything wedding!

My fiance and I had this conversation last night! He's a full time student, working part time, I have a decently demanding job. Planning something well over a year away with so many teeny tiny details... It's more anxeity inducing than anything else. We're opting for a small semi-casual wedding and reception and that helps.
As my fiance put it "I want to get married to you, but I don't want to do all the planning"
Hits the nail on the head. I think when we're all closer to the date itself it'll become more exciting.

What you feel is not abnormal. 1. You are a year out from your day. How could one expect to have butterflies for an entire year about something? The excitement will come and go in bursts likely. Don’t worry you aren’t feeling it now. 2. It is normal to feel anxious. It is normal to feel overwhelmed. I cried almost everyday the week of my wedding because I was worried about getting up in front of everyone during the ceremony. I even cried the morning of because I was overwhelmed and didn’t know what to think! 3. Being busy and not constantly thinking about your wedding is fine. I am in medical school and was constantly in the hospital for the vast majority of my engagement. You have a life outside of wedding planning!

I am now happily newlywed, no regrets about going through with a big wedding and ceremony!

There is nothing wrong with the way you feel. Some people get butterflies while others just want the day to hurry up and be over!

I feel somewhat the same way and my wedding is only 4 months away. I’m so excited to marry my FH, but I also get nervous being the center of attention. My main goal is to get the ceremony over as quickly as possible, without crying. Then once the reception starts I’m doing all dances and toasts immediately to get on with the enjoyable part of the evening, dancing and hanging with my friends and family that I don’t see regularly.

Being a year out is hard. I rarely felt excitment towards my day until it started getting closer and closer. Of course, real life takes over sometimes and its easy to feel like the wedding is so far and not that pumped about the planning and the money and the attention. Definitely have the wedding you are comfortable with, though. Have a smaller guest list of only close loved ones if a large crowd makes you anxious.

Truly, that is ok! There is a HUGE misconception that you have to feel a certain way as you are planning your wedding and you have to be on cloud 9 all day every day. What is most important is that YOU and your FH are excited about being married.

I would sit down and talk to your FH about what you both envision for your wedding day. Maybe it is something small in the backyard and if that's the case, than go for it!

My advice would be to not compare your feelings to others. Everyone has different feelings around their wedding and I would be willing to be 9 times out of 10 brides emotions and feelings towards the actual wedding part change! Just relax and let yourself feel as you feel. As long as you are excited about the marriage part, than your'e good!

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I'm a week and a half away and I feel this exact.same.way. I honestly just want the whole wedding to be over already - if I could wake up and it be the day after the wedding, I would be so happy! I don't think there's anything about the wedding itself that I'm looking forward to! I hate being the center of attention, I hate dancing, I hate socializing - if it weren't for my FH I would never have had a big wedding. Ugh - hang in there until it's over. Lol.