Wedding Etiquette Question - Wedding Postponed but Gifts Already Purchased

Aww hello from another 7/11 bride! Honestly girl you did not choose to have the coronavirus change your wedding! As long as you plan on inviting all the same people to your wedding, I think it's fine to take the gifts now. Write a thank you note and maybe include "and we look forward to seeing you, even tho it's a bit farther away than originally planned" or something like that, making it clear that you are still getting married!

I have been working on my Zola registry for months lol 😂 and a lot of things go out of stock!!! Weird place to be certainly. My date is July 25 but I hadn’t shared the registry with anyone yet. Good luck to you!

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Hi Autumn, thanks for the note! I'm glad to hear you think it is ok to have the gifts shipped now... I think that would be the easiest option all around. Wishing you the best of luck with your wedding!

Hi! We got married last week but pushed back our big wedding to September. People are actually still buying stuff off our registry and we got a ton of stuff from my bridal showers. It's definitely ok to keep any gifts you get....we all had no idea this pandemic was going to screw with our wedding plans.

I would get the gifts now since the guests paid for them already, for the exact reason you said: What if the item is discontinued before next year?

Definitely get now and write the thank you card when you receive it! Your guests will be touched that you got it done early!

Get the gifts now and send thank you cards right away. People buy gifts when they feel inspired and have the funds, so there's no need for them to wait until next year to recieve your thanks. The money is already spent, and they given to you to use and celebrate you.


We created our registry (also Zola) in August 2019 for our (potentially postponed?) July 2020 wedding. We didn't tell anyone, but the tab is there on our website. We have been recieving gifts sporatically since then. Some people purchased gifts there for our engagement party in October, my mom's coworker randomly sent a congrats gift, some people got us Christmas and birthday gifts from there, and a couple family members purchased when they got the save the dates so they wouldn't forget come summer. I sent thank you cards as soon as we recived the gift so the person knows we recived them, and it's one less thing to do after the wedding!

All that to say, you just need to thank them for thinking of you, briefly mention how you'll use the gift, and that you appreciate them. To ease your guilt (which you truly shouldn't have! your guests love you!), you can say that you look forward to celebrating with them in person when you're able.

Thank you, everyone! We’re going to go ahead and have the gifts shipped now