Wedding Envy

Yes I get it! Fh and I have been engaged 8 years. We waited for money reasons bought a house all that Jazz. But I see people who in the time I’ve been engaged find someone, date, get engaged and then married all while we’ve still been engaged. I’m sure happy for them and we made the decision we made but yes I’m still a little jealous. It’s just part of being human

I didn't get jealous exactly, but shortly before my wedding my MOH attended a wedding of her husband's cousin and her telling me about it made me feel a little insecure (and maybe a little bit of 'what I would do to have that kind of budget' lol) because of size and budget differences. They had a over 150 guests, adorable succulents as favors, multiple food stations, fancy cocktail hour, etc. I practically begged my MOH not to expect my wedding to compare to that one at all.
Now that I'm married, I know my wedding was perfect for me and my husband and tons of fun for my 43 guests. It was on a much smaller budget, but it was done very well and went amazingly. I no longer see 10k+ weddings and go 'oh I wish I had that kind of budget.' I'm perfectly happy with my own wedding and happy for everyone else!!

I see what your saying, my wedding isn't for 2020 and I am frustrated and envy a cousin of mine who is also engaged, while I have to work extremely hard and save for my wedding which is a cursed blessing she gets thousands of dollars from her rich grandparents I mean she went to dinner with them and came back with 20,000 and can have any type of wedding she wants without blinking a eye, however I remember that it's not a competition and that the saving for the wedding has broughten me closer to my fiancé

People are so crazy on here. Yes I know what you mean, you are excited and impatient and want to be married already! I get that!

View Quoted Comment I get what you’re saying. It’s not like your unhappy or purposefully being jealous. It’s just when you see other people getting married and you have to wait you just want to get married even more! I feel the same way.

I wouldn't say jealous, but it makes me a little regretful and impatient we didn't go with a June 2018 wedding instead of 2019. We are literally just waiting an extra year for no reason lol

I get what you mean- I wouldn't say that I feel jealous to what other brides have but the anticipation for my own day is killing me! Here's hoping out countdowns hurry up!

This is me too! One of my friends got married in February and one got married in May. I'm SO CLOSE but seeing all the pics and congrats messages just makes me soooo excited! I wouldn't call it jealous, exactly, but it was jealousy before I was engaged!

I'm the opposite. It just gets me more excited for our celebration to come. It will be here and gone before you know it so I'm just embracing the excitement knowing it will be over too soon.

My wedding is next July, one of my best friends just got married yesterday, and I am just itching to be married! Don't get me wrong I am enjoying the engagement period but I am just ready to start this new beginning. I feel you girl!

I understand date envy 100% It felt like I was engaged before anyone else and yet everyone is getting married before me. I also sometimes feel like I am more limited in what I can do for my wedding. IE: my mom keeps trying to get me to have sunflowers and a taco bar because a family friend (who happens to be an ex) had these things and "it was so beautiful and fun" or everyone in my family seems to think I should have my wedding at a specific barn venue because that is where the past 5 wedding have been (I do also think this particular venue is a rip off so I am not just not choosing it because others have had theirs there)

OP just know it will be worth the wait when it is finally your day!

I would be super excited that your wedding is still to come! Enjoy in your friends wedded bliss and look forward to your own wedding!

I don't get jealous, especially since I'm engaged and planning my own wedding. I got a little sad before we were engaged, but not enough to mention it!

Not jealous, just impatient! Everyone we know who is married had their wedding within a year of getting engaged, and FH and I will be engaged 3 years and 10 days when we walk down the aisle this October. It’s frustrating, but I know in the end that our day will be worth the wait because we made it there together in our own time, and we paid for our wedding ourselves.
Keep your head up, your wedding will be here before you know it!!