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Jennifer
Just Said Yes September 2019

Wedding entourage walking down the aisle

Jennifer, on April 1, 2019 at 12:30 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 12
My fiancé’s sister just asked us if we plan on including her 16 year old son, his nephew, as part of our wedding party and walk down the aisle/ be a part of the wedding somehow. While I think it’s a sweet idea, it’s not something either my fiancé or I thought about. While I don’t think it was right of her to clearly imply that she thinks he should have a place in the wedding, it’s never our intention to offend anyone.

I suggested to my fiancé that maybe his nephew could read a poem or something.. but my fiancé says he wouldn’t want to do any public speaking. So I’m thinking maybe it could be just as simple as letting him walk down the aisle alone? Would that be weird? Is there like a guideline to who walks down the aisle or can I basically be like my wedding my way? Lol

Also do siblings that arent in the bridal party walk down the aisle as well? My brother isn’t a groomsman and none of his sisters are my bridesmaid.

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Latest activity by Brooke, on April 1, 2019 at 1:40 PM
  • Megan
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    Megan ·
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    I wasn't planning on putting my brother or my fh half sister ( he doesn't ever call her a half sister) in my wedding either. I am not super close with my brother, neither is my fh, my fh sister is several years younger. We are only putting his brother ( my fh was in his wedding) and his half brother (I'm sure my mil, would want it)
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  • Jennifer
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    That totally makes sense. I only have 1 brother and my FH has 3 sisters. So I was thinking his nephew could walk down with his mom (FH sister). But then would that be offensive to his other two sisters? It just seems like a lot of people to be walking down an aisle
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  • Riley
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    I am letting my cousins be ushers maybe you could let him do that

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  • Formerbride
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    It can get messy having everyone walk down the aisle if they don't have a place in the BP. That will be more people attending your rehearsal and RD too. Also, you'd have to consider the added time into your ceremony having additional people walk. I have 2 brothers and FH has 1 sister. None of them are in our wedding. None of them will be walking down the aisle. We are only have BP members and parents walk down the aisle. My brothers may help people get seated. I'm not sure if they can handle that task lol.
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  • Mcskipper
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    Mcskipper ·
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    I went the “my wedding, my way” route. My brother and SIL weren’t in the wedding party, but I still wanted them involved, so I had them walk down the aisle too , between the groomsmen and the bridesmaids. (We didn’t have a huge bridal party — 3 bridesmaids and 4 groomsmen, so it didn’t make it any sort of crazy long drawn out process)
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  • Kristin
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    My brother and FH's BIL will be ushers. I am not close to my brother (mainly because of his wife...hes just a different person when they are together) and no one likes FH's BIL so we really did not want to include them, but making them ushers at least allows us to keep the peace. I was not in the bridal party for my brother's wedding and did not walk down the aisle. I did do a reading, but that was a mess in it's own right because the pastor did the EXACT SAME READING seconds before announcing my reading... and being that I am not religious I could not just think of a different one to do... I felt like a damn fool...(

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  • Jennifer
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    Oooo yes. That is something to consider. Thank you!
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  • Jennifer
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    Oh no!! I’m sorry that happened! I would feel the same way lol I was thinking maybe he could do a reading but at 16 y/o idk how how comfortable he is with public speaking. I think what I’m just gonna do is let his sister decide whether he should be an usher or if she wants to walk down the aisle with him. I woke up at 3 am wrestling over this! Lol
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  • Jennifer
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    Yea this isn’t even something we were thinking about yet lol I mean I assume his sisters would attend the RD anyways whether they walk down the aisle or not. The timing of the ceremony crossed my mind, but I guess if I’m really thinking about it it’s just 2 extra couples walking down (nephew & nephews mom, and other two sisters will walk down together).

    My brother will be walking down with my mom so I can imagine FH wanting his sister(s) to be involved regardless if we include his nephew or not. So to keep the peace we will include our siblings. Man, who knew that the simple act of just thinking could be tiring 😴
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  • Jennifer
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    That’s a great idea! My bridal party is about the same size (4&4). And they will walk in couples so I don’t think adding his nephew and siblings, who will also walk in pairs, will prolong the ceremony by that much!
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  • Formerbride
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    I totally understand. Even the most simple things somehow become complicated!

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  • Brooke
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    I think making him an usher would be a better option!
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