Wedding dress shopping without bridesmaids & moh

I think you’re fine to have gone alone. Especially if you always wanted the two of them to be with you. It sounds like it was a great opportunity out. Only my mom went dress shopping with me and it was such a special experience because she never had the relationship with her mother that I do with her. My MOH didn’t care and none of my bridesmaids cared. I think it’s a silly thing for them to be upset about.

Your BM's and MOH might be disappointed, but they'll get over it. If it was important to you too have your mom and nana there for the first time you tried on then that's all that matters.

Maybe see if there's a local bridal shop that carries your dress and make an appointment to go try it on with your bridal party there so they can see you in it 😉

That's dumb of them to be upset. I only went shopping with my mom and sister, and that's what most of my friends did too. I've been a bridesmaid a few times and have never gone wedding dress shopping with the bride. I think that should be a special moment with just the mom and/or grandmother & sister(s).

I went dress shopping with one of my daughters, just the two of us. Then the next day we went again with her FMIL, and one of my other daughters (MOH). She has a total of 2-MOH's and 3 BM's so one of the MOH's (her other sister) 3 BM's (who were not asked yet) did not attend. No biggie, go with who you want.

Not everyone has to go see your dress. I only went with my mom and two of my bridesmaids. I didn't want to bring too many people cause I didn't want their opinions to affect my decision.

I can get why they are disappointed because they wanted to be a part of that experience - but you can include them by having one or two come to each fitting.

Mom and Nana get priority over BMs. I think it is silly for them to be upset. I went with just my mom when I was married the first time and it was nice to not have to worry about a bunch of different opinions and ideas. None of my BMs or MOH were upset.

They can be upset if they choose to be, but honestly that's their problem, not yours. You had every right to go shopping when and with whom you wanted.

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Yep - 100%

No, you didn't make the wrong choice and it's fine that you didn't wait. Going dress shopping, or shopping in general, is an intimate experience. You wouldn't feel really comfortable trying on a bunch of dresses in front of a group of people. A lot of people will tell you that you should go alone or with one single person that you really trust and are comfortable with.

I would just explain to them that it was important to you to go with your mom and Nana, and that you want to make it a day and go bridesmaid dress shopping with everyone. That's exactly what I did and it was really fun for the bridesmaids, and I also got to pick out my dress in a stress-free environment.

Dont let them damper your dress-finding experience...

going with your mom and grandma was obviously much more important to you when dress shopping, so i wouldnt stress over it too much. you found the dress - they should be happy for you regardless of if they were there or not.

most bridal shops dont really have room for a crowd anyway. i just took mom and im so glad i did. its really kind of stupid for them to be upset... most people dont take their whole bridal party shopping for a wedding dress. its too many opinions anyway! i think you're fine to have chosen the dress when you did and they'll get over it.

You didn't do anything wrong. Not everyone goes dress shopping with their BP or with big groups. Many dress shops have a limit on the size of a group you can bring with you to an appointment and appointments with a lot of people present aren't always that productive because your opinion can get drowned out or because not everyone in a large group is going to agree.

It's unfortunate that your friends are upset. I'd just tell them you wanted to go shopping once with your mom and nana and you weren't expecting to find a dress the first time (the truth). Maybe promise to get then a pic of you in the dress or promise to invite them over to see it as soon as the dress comes in, since they are articulating disappointment over not getting to go dress shopping. Or tell them they can come with you to a fitting, if they want to.

I want to add: The thought of trying on dresses in front of a crowd is the inner portal of hell. Secondly, if your friends are true friends they will be happy you were able to share this experience with your family, not pissed.

I went with only my mom, my mother in law to be, and my maid of honor. No one else because I didn’t want a million opinions. Once my dress came in, I took my bridesmaids to see it. Other than that, no one has seen my dress because I’m keeping it a HUGE secret.

They have no reason to be upset.
I'm not planning on taking any friends when I go. I'll be taking my mom, my FMIL and my two step-daughters. I feel like taking anyone else besides that would be too many people.

at the end of the day, you found your dress - who was with you doesn't matter.