Wedding dress, second guessing

Dress regret is super normal. You can continue to see yourself in this dress and see how you feel or you can do what I did and exchange the dress. Although even after my wedding day I sometimes wonder would another dress have been good but I did love my dress I chose. I would say wait a bit but if you continue to not feel good about this dress I would see can you return or exchange because you should love your dress for your day.

First question would be what is the cancellation and exchange policy at the store you purchased your dress? Many places allow you to cancel an order within 24 to 48 hours, so you may be against a time restraint if you want to cancel the order. I would definitely check with them ASAP, just in case you do decide to cancel the order. Was the dress you loved at the same store? If so, would they allow you to change your order to that first one?

This feeling of second guessing is very common. No, I didn't experience dress regret, but I made sure not to show anyone my dress, even my mom, bc I didn't want to receive any negative feedback... which would have caused me to regret/2nd guess.

Dress regret is very real. I ended up with three different dresses from three different stores all of which my mom purchased. I told her she didn't have to, but she insisted. The first dress I never wore and the second I ended up having shortened and wore for my after party and the third I was totally in love with and wore for the ceremony, cocktail hour and reception. I will say the first store was very rude and I tried to cancel my order within less than 24 hours. They refused even though they had told us while in the store they couldn't order the dress for several days because the company where the dress would be coming from wasn't open. We offered to pick out bridesmaids and mother of the bride and groom dresses that would equal the amount we spent on the dress that way they were still getting the same amount of money, but on dresses we actually wanted, but they still said no. They ended up going out of business a few months prior to my wedding. The second store was so much better about it. I had gone for alterations and because the alterations weren't completed when I decided on the third dress they kindly reimbursed our money even though they didn't have to. Honestly, every store is different so if you do decide to go with the original dress there is no guarantee as to how the store will handle it.

There are so many stunning gowns out there that the truth is: more than one will suit you and look beautiful on you.

When I bought my dress, I instantly started to wonder if I made the right decision, and I kept looking at pictures of me trying it on, then comparing to all the gowns I was being flooded with on here, Instagram, Say Yes to the Dress, etc.

But then I remembered what I loved about the dress I bought and why I purchased it in the first place. I tried on about 6-8 dresses, but ended up buying the very first one I put on. My feelings of dress doubt were more like, "Why didn't I go to other stores? What if I'm missing out on an even better dress?"

I ended up sticking with my original dress and I couldn't be happier. I got more obsessed with it over time, and actually sent it away to be preserved a couple months ago.

So, second-guessing is very common. What's most important is how you feel - not anyone else's opinion. But if you're really feeling the first dress and have the budget for it, I'd see what your options are as Chrysta mentioned.

So I went dress shopping and thought I found THE dress. It was the shape and style I had been looking for, for over a year while planning and I thought I looked great! However, I tried on another dress in a different store and fell in love with that one too. I ended up buying the second dress because everyone I showed (mom, sister, FMIL,etc.) loved that one more. I did the same thing you are doing, looked at pictures, going to wedding wire and seeing which dress people loved more (they picked the one I didn’t buy), I just felt like I was digging a bigger hole for myself. I ended up going back to the salon for my accessories appointment where I was able to try my dress on again. As soon as I put it on I knew made the right decision. I felt beautiful and bridal exactly how I remember. I would say trust yourself. There is a reason you bought the dress you did and I almost guarantee that you feel that way again when you are able to try on that dress again!

View Quoted Comment This was a perfect response! Thank you. I’m a person who over thinks but I believe I picked this dress for a reason and I know once I go back when alterations are done I’ll have that feeling again!

Yup, this is common. I bought my dress in August and I don't even recieve it until the end of January and I have a love hate relationship with it. Literally every other week I go back and forth between loving it and regretting it. I always think I look good it in it but it wasn't what I had pictured in my head so I always wonder. I'm plus sized and I bought a sheath because it made me feel amazing and small lol, but I had pictured more of an a line. When in doubt it I just remind myself I chose my dress for a reason.

The right dress is the one you don't want to take off. No two people have the same fashion tastes and unless the dress is ill-fitting (too big or too small) everyone will think you are gorgeous in it even it's not a style they would wear themselves You obviously loved something about the 2nd dress or you wouldn't have picked it.

I had a dress like that but Im happy I didn't put any money on it.. But the question is is there a way you can switch if you change your mind? Is the dress at the same store as the 1st one & can I see both dresses?