Wedding dress nerves

Just remember that you are going to find a dress for YOU. so even if your entourage don't agree with your choices, they're not the ones wearing it and they have their own styles and it doesn't mean they don't think you're beautiful

You’re going to find an amazing dress. You have great taste and a good sense of what you’re looking for.

View Quoted Comment Thank you so much! I already have a pretty good feeling that my entourage won’t agree with my tastes, simply because I tend to go for things/dresses that are on the eccentric side and not always traditional. But they’ve known me long enough to where it shouldn’t be too surprising, hopefully!

View Quoted Comment Thank you so much, I appreciate that! ❤️❤️❤️

View Quoted Comment You’re welcome! I can’t wait to see the dress you choose.

With that body shape every dress will look amazing!

I seriously thought I was going to pass out in the car while driving to my first appointment, Lol. I did NOT think I would enjoy dress shopping. I love shopping and dresses, but severely lack the "bride gene" so thought I would be really uncomfortable in that environment, and that I would hate my body in everything and have a miserable day. As it turns out, I loved it, and loved how I looked in almost every dress. I almost wish I could go try on wedding dresses every weekend now Best advice is to take pictures of yourself in each dress, if the salon allows it. It really does make a difference in seeing how it looks in photos as opposed to a mirror!

The best is to forget Say Yes to the Dress shopping party, and shop the first time or two alone or with a friend who shares your tastes, and will not get emotionally involved. Ignore what you think you want..... Ask to try on at least one of every major style. See how the different body proportions of a mermaid, a trumpet, and a fit and flare look. Try sheaths and A line, assymmetrical and drop and regular waist. With a train, with none. Try boho, try chic. With your figure, try well supported gowns with shoulders or sleeves or some strap, not just strapless, to see the difference in where they accent an hourglass ( wide at shoulders) or look smallest at bust ( strapless.)
All without MOM or FMIL there to love or hate or advise. See the shapes that look best, which may completely surprise you. Then, if you want either mother, or both, for sentimental reasons, go back a second time, with a list of types, and try on only those couple types, and only in your price range and size. A consultant who knows her stock will quickly pull dresses by style, and without other people putting their 2 cents in,you can try 8-12 in an appointment. Then make a second appt when she is working, To do just the best few styles, by different makers, for your moms. This way 2 of them against you won't get you stuck in what you do not want. Avoid weekends . 🙃🙂Have fun, no stress.

View Quoted Comment That’s great advice, thank you! I’m glad that I’m not the only one. I feel the same way about the bride gene, lol! Plus I worry about what people will think if there’s others in the boutique with me, just because I have tattoos and I don’t have the overly girlie appearance. I am girlie on the inside, not always on the outside! I definitely plan to take photos of the dresses I like on, that part will be fun! Thank you again for the kind words! ❤️❤️❤️❤️

View Quoted Comment Thank you so much! 🥰🥰🥰🥰

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You're welcome!

View Quoted Comment Rachel. It's your day, your dress. So maybe these entourage people shouldn't be with you. ? They're there to support you and guide you if something is unflattering but they shouldn't expect you to change your style.

Listen to the consultant. She specializes in matching styles and bodies to dresses! And if you don't like something, be specific when you tell her you don't like it.

And don't get discouraged. You might not find IT the first day. And that's OK. Don't feel pressured to buy.
The other thing, have pictures taken from a lot of angles. So you can see the view from all view points! I realized I didn't like the way a dress bunched up on me from the side view.
Good luck, you got this!

I actually told my mom in the parking lot before we went in, that we were not buying a dress that day. That took a lot of the pressure off of the appointment. And you know what? I bought the fourth dress I tried on that day and have not had a single regret since!! Also I am 5’8” and about 150 pounds. You will have an absolute blast trying on wedding dresses… Take it from me. Take a deep breath and don’t put pressure on yourself to buy on the first day. Have fun!!

Think of it like dating... you have to go through a lot of “NOs” or even “HELL NOs” before you find The One, but it’s so worth it! 😁💗

Sounds like we are similar height and weight. The salon I went to is only allowing 2 guests plus bride, so it was easy not to worry about different opinions. On the first visit, I told my mom and best friend I wasn’t buying a dress. I was going to find the silhouette and size that worked for my body. I narrowed it down to 3 dresses (all different silhouettes). I returned a week later with my mom and another friend and made my final decision. I have absolutely no regrets on the dress I chose. Best advice...go in to look. Don’t feel like you NEED to buy the dress that day.

There isn’t a bride out there that doesn’t end up looking stunning. Ignore the dress sizes and chuck out silhouettes and fabric that you don’t love. Alterations work a ton of magic so try to see through some imperfections that can be fixed. . You’ll find your perfect dress!! It may take time. Don’t rush into a purchase if you can help it - step away and think on it.

I took my mom and the mom of one of my best (male) friends. We had an absolute blast. It's one of my favorite memories from last year.

I told my mom there were 3 rules: no crying, no buying, and no comments about my weight. I am a bit shorter and a bit heavier than you are, and my well-meaning mom has in the past made comments like "if you lost 5 pounds/toned up your [x]/etc it would look perfect" which I was not about on dress shopping day, especially because I'd already lost 40 pounds by that point. I am not a happy crier and I didn't want to make a decision that day. The "rules" worked out great, we had a fantastic time, and everything looked good on me. It was awesome!

Hey there! Same height, same weight.


You're going to be ok. It's a little nerve-wracking, and I know the pressure about wanting to feel amazing. You already are amazing though.
Don't be afraid to try something different from what you originally wanted, you might be surprised.

View Quoted Comment Haha so true!